It’s the echo that still kills me.

Even two years into divorce, it continues to jump me like one of those hockey mask-wearing psycho killers every time I walk in the door of my apartment. And it cuts right into my heart, reminding me how barren my life is now. »more»

There are basically three types of friends in this world. Let’s say you fall of a bridge into the raging river. The first type of friend would jump right in to save you. The second type would look around for rope or anything else that could be used to pull you to safety. And the third type….oh, the third type….they will rush right out and sign you up for swimming lessons. »more»

What the heck is the Dorothy Syndrome and what does it have to do with mid-life crisis? Well, it has everything to do with MLC! The Dorothy Syndrome is a phrase that I coined and is the premise for my upcoming book titled "The Dorothy Syndrome: Mid-life on the Yellow Brick Road". While coaching at another web site forum, I started using the metaphors used in one of my favorite stories and movies..."The Wizard of OZ". I was astonished at how easily I could use the dialog from the movie or premise of the story to describe the transitions, emotions, the typical experiences that occur during an MLC, whether it be for the woman or the man. »more»

Let’s face it. Nobody gets married so they can get divorced. Okay, maybe they do if their last name is Trump, but for the rest of us, we enter a marriage with the reasonable expectation that this is it. We’ve happily mated for life, those 50 percent divorce rate statistics be damned.

And then it happens. »more»

Recently many articles have been appearing on the internet extolling the virtues of entering into a prenuptial or premarital agreement prior to your marriage.  I offer the following reflections from my practice of law and work as a mediator to strongly counter the idea that prenuptial agreements have no “cost” and provide onl »more»

This reader recommendation was just posted here: »more»

"I bought a fantastic book to help me put things into perspective, its the 'starting over' book by the same author as Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus." »more»

According to WSJ's Sue Shellenbarger, the answer is "yes and no". Yes, many of the states with higher reported divorce did in fact vote Republican in the last Presidential election, but no there is no known causal relationship between political affiliation and odds of divorce. Once again we have the confusion of "correlation versus causation": »more»

"LifeTwo columnist Laurie Israel recently posted "25 Secrets To A Great Marriage", which offered specific advice for getting over the rough spots in a marriage. »more»

As a practicing divorce attorney and divorce mediator, I’ve met a number of couples that, if they had been given some good advice (and had remembered that advice) a few years or even months earlier, they would not be divorcing. The following advice is based on my observations as a divorce attorney, a mediator/conflict resolver, and as an experienced, mature married person. »more»