Recently, from a business, personal, and spiritual perspective, I've been doing a lot of meditating on [apparent] failure. Right now, I can't think of a more apropos topic for people facing and experiencing the midlife transition. For one thing, your successes don't precipitate a midlife crisis. In fact, an uninterrupted string of successes can actually insulate you from undergoing the midlife transition, leaving you for longer than expected — and longer than necessary — state of im-maturity. When you're 'blessed' with success, you may be getting what you want, but to your own detriment: not getting what you really need.

I ardently agree with Friedrich Nietzsche that "What does not kill me, makes me stronger." The contrary, may very well also be true: What pampers me, makes me weaker. Getting your own way may, for a time, seem like a triumph; but, is it really? Does it actually move you forward, or does it, more often than not, lead you further into imminent trouble? Do negative consequences hold you back in fact, or are they, rather, 'medicinal blessings'?

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When taken in the context of dating, dress for success takes a different spin. Keep in mind that anytime you plan to attend an event where the majority of those in attendance will be setting eyes on you for the first time, you must do all you can to make a positive first impression. »more»

When you’re speed dating or networking, you only have a few minutes to make a connection. But there are many similar situations that can present themselves socially and professionally. That’s why developing skills relative to how to start a conversation and to connect with someone is so important. »more»

Who’s who? Why not show them the real you? »more»

Here are some characteristics which men have shared that they do not like in women:

Hair- Untouchable, over processed or bleached, roots showing, badly colored, extreme styling

Nails - dirty, chipped or peeling polish, wild or garish nail color, ultra extreme lengths

Clothing - too revealing, too tight, not appropriate for the planned activity, overdressed, untouchable »more»

Yesterday’s blog focused on how to make a favorable first impression. Sometimes, it can be just as important to know what to avoid. Today’s entry offers some traits which women have shared that they do not like in men:

Hair- Obvious comb-overs in order to disguise balding, badly fitted hairpieces, hair too long and dated, extreme hairstyles - too punk or too old, uncombed »more»

What's not to like? First impressions count! Got an initial in person meeting coming up? Don't miss this week’s blog posts: How not to disappoint. »more»

What an absolutely amazing time to be a 'Boomer! If you're a person who likes a challenge, you'll absolutely love 2009! »more»

One of our readers sent me an email that really touched me: »more»

The number one topic that we discuss here is change and when it comes down to brass tacks...the one change that is predominant throughout discussions among men and women at Mid-life are: finding our Purpose in Life…this can be the problem or it is the answer! »more»