If I didn't know better (but I'm not sure that I do), I'd say the world was having a midlife crisis. Whether it's about half-way through it's life span, I don't know; but I do think that it's behaving just like a middle-aged guy. »more»

The most popular topic on Oprah.com lately has been about the two most recent visits by Dr. M. Gary Neuman, author of “The Truth About Cheating”. Women by the millions tuned in both days to find out the answer to this most frustrating, devastating and destructive subject, only to find out that, in a nut shell, it was primarily their fault. »more»

To be fair, all those Internet dating sites do what they do well. But then again, so do nuclear warheads, and I don’t think I’d have much luck around them either.

I realize what heresy it is to say something like that in this particular time at this particular place. Dating websites are everywhere. Match.com. eHarmony. True. Chemistry. Lavalife. JDate. Matchmaker. Seriously, there are more sites devoted to dating than the number of women I’ve dated in my entire life. And each one of them promises that you’ll find your soulmate, if you’ll just sign up for a nominal monthly fee. Who says you can’t put a price on love?

Far be it from me to be cynical (okay, maybe it’s not that far) about these places. I know two people who met and married their spouse via an online matchmaker. Still, I while it may work for some people, Internet dating is also a torture Satan thought up after a few shots of Jack Daniels. »more»

Mid-Life Crisis (MLC) is very much like childbirth...whether it be for a man or a woman, it is the re-birthing of a person....it has it's stages of labor...and we transition from one stage to another.  Many women handle this birthing better than others...many choose to take medication or numb themselves to get through it, while others opt to have a C- section and remove themselves, so they can be »more»

I was recently asked to comment on Oprah magazine columnist Ellen Tien's "She's Happily Married, Dreaming of Divorce." Eagerly I clicked the link and began reading, wondering why it had been sent to me in particular for comment. »more»

There are basically three types of friends in this world. Let’s say you fall of a bridge into the raging river. The first type of friend would jump right in to save you. The second type would look around for rope or anything else that could be used to pull you to safety. And the third type….oh, the third type….they will rush right out and sign you up for swimming lessons. »more»

What the heck is the Dorothy Syndrome and what does it have to do with mid-life crisis? Well, it has everything to do with MLC! The Dorothy Syndrome is a phrase that I coined and is the premise for my upcoming book titled "The Dorothy Syndrome: Mid-life on the Yellow Brick Road". While coaching at another web site forum, I started using the metaphors used in one of my favorite stories and movies..."The Wizard of OZ". I was astonished at how easily I could use the dialog from the movie or premise of the story to describe the transitions, emotions, the typical experiences that occur during an MLC, whether it be for the woman or the man. »more»

Most of us like to think that a mutually agreed upon divorce or simple job lay off is not shameful. But something in our culture and deep within our own psyche begs to differ. I found my own divorce to feel quite shameful. What I say now is that any divorce, no matter how mutally desired, traumatizes the people involved and feels like a failure on some level. »more»

Today would have been my twenty-second wedding anniversary. I think it is important to reminisce about long-term relationships gone awry as one would at a memorial of a difficult person. Not dwell on the downs, but the ups. Paint a picture of what was added to your life as a result, not what was stripped. »more»

A book just out in paperback says forget all those '70's notions that women are identical to men. Female hormones affect women's brain's in evolutionarily advantageous ways, but they may also spur older women to start new lives -- even if that means leaving their husbands behind. »more»