How to create a lasting first impression when speed dating or networking.

Who’s who? Why not show them the real you?

One of the reasons why singles attend speed dating events is because within a short amount of time you can meet a lot of potential dates. But those logistics can present their own challenges. In order for you to be able to remember who's who as well as for them to be able to remember you, it’s important for all participants to try to make a positive and lasting impression.

Give this some thought a few days before the event. Is there something that you can do, perform, show or give to those you meet in your matches that will enable you to create a memory? It's especially powerful if you're able to relate this special something to the real you. What are your talents? What are you best known for? If you have trouble thinking of something, enlist the help of a trusted friend or relative. This approach may also net you the added value of getting some real ego boosting that will help you with self-confidence the night of the event. Here are just some ideas to help get your creative juices flowing. And, yes, it's okay for you to repeat the same approach in each new match round or "date" because each is a new audience just waiting to meet you.

- Are you a jokester? Tell a quick & maybe silly joke. (Keep it clean & not offensive.) Even something child-like like a corny knock-knock joke might be just the thing to put a new acquaintance at ease and to demonstrate that you have a good sense of humor and fun.

- Do you have a favorite hobby or past-time that you can project either in its end result or by wearing some related theme clothing or accessory? Ex. If you knit, you might wear a sweater you knit or wear a piece of jewelry or a scarf printed with a knitting theme. A gentleman with a pet dog might wear a tie with a purebred breed or just a general dog theme. However, even if you’re a big fan of a particular professional sports team, unless you own, work or play for the team, you might want to opt for something that speaks more to you and your own unique accomplishments versus wearing official team merchandise.

- Are you a member of a fraternal organization (like Masons, Knights of Columbus, Rotary etc.) with an official symbol that is well known and that you could wear as jewelry?

- Are you active in alumni or university circles or simply a proud alumnus? Think about wearing a shirt, sweater or tie which identifies your alma mater.

- Are you a chocoholic? Offer a Hershey's "Kiss" to your new friends!

- Do you make fabulous fudge or chocolate chip cookies? Make a “gift” to each new "date" of a piece or two wrapped up or sealed in a zip lock and include a little reminder message inside. (Please note that it's illegal to bring food made off-premise into a restaurant. But still this might be suitable for some venues.)

- Are you a proud pet parent or godparent? Bring along a "brag" photo or two to share with each new "match."

There are lots and lots of possibilities. If you give this some thought, you'll be amazed at what you can come up with. Good luck!