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Stress Relief: When things get to be too much, there are things you can do

Wesley's picture

Everyone knows that stress is a silent killer. But what to do about it? In addition to ridding yourself of the underlying causes of stress, experts advise Exercise, Sleep, and Mindful Relaxation all top the list. Below is a description of each and why it works taken from a recent LA Times Health section article.

Exercise:

Evolution has conditioned us to respond to stress as a physical threat, which is why our bodies produce hormones that prepare us to flee from trouble or fight back physically. However, running or punching usually isn't appropriate in our daily routines, so those hormones accumulate. This is where exercise comes in.

Initially, an intense workout is a stressor, boosting the heart rate, blood pressure and adrenaline. But regular exercise leads to lower baseline heart rates, lower blood pressure and lower stress hormone levels when at rest. This makes occasional surges of stress easier to handle.

Exercise can also reduce resting adrenaline rates as well as reduce depression.

Sleep:

Getting enough sleep is one of the most difficult things to do when one is stressed out. But getting sufficient sleep is critical to fight stress.

Even one night of tossing and turning raises the level of inflammatory cytokines, says Michael Irwin, director of the UCLA Cousins Center for Psychoneuroimmunology. Cytokines are chemical messengers, or proteins, that send messages between immune cells, and nerve and brain cells. Some promote inflammation; others are anti-inflammatory. A wide spectrum of conditions, including cardiovascular disease, arthritis, diabetes, certain cancers, obesity and functional decline, are linked to an increase in inflammatory cytokines. Experimental sleep deprivation has been found to alter immune responses and increase inflammation.

Chronic inflammation is associated with a variety of medical risks and should be avoided at all costs.

Mindful Relaxation:

Deliberate relaxation -- also mitigates stress.

"Stress often causes problems because you let it," says Winner, also the author of "Take the Stress Out of Your Life." "You control your thoughts. But too many of us let our thoughts control us."

Mindfulness is the ability to deliberately focus on the present moment and to appreciate it. When people are mindful, they feel less urgency.

Practicing mindfulness and meditation trains the brain to focus -- whether on a mantra or a moment, says Irwin. That conscious activity improves the brain's attention span. People who know how to rein in distracting thoughts, which are often worries, and concentrate on the task at hand have a powerful defense against stress.

Studies have shown that during meditation, heart rates, blood pressure and stress hormones drop, and that people who meditate regularly have lower baselines of stress.

"Breathing is underrated," says Speck. People who do breathing exercises religiously produce fewer stress hormones, trigger fewer inflammatory cytokines and lower their blood pressure and heart rates. When we get stressed, we use only the upper third of our lungs, and breathing gets shallow. We don't give our bodies enough oxygen, which causes it to produce more stress hormones and makes the heart beat faster to circulate what little oxygen there is.

Other suggestions include being social, having a positive attitude and eating properly. Follow the link below for the full article.

Source: LA Times

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Anonymous's picture

wife wants divorce after 29yrs

my wife has been going through depression since kids moved 3yrs ago and mlc she has switched 3 jobs in last 3yrs she has a lot of pressure on her job as mortgage loan officer it started in december of 2006 it got good in july of 2008 until about feb of 2009 job stress got bad with refinancing boom her processor quit and never was replaced she works 12hr days 7 days a wk now she goes out of town every wkend to her girlfriends whic is a divorcee i will do anything to keep my marriage ive been doing all the work around the house but it dont matter she blows up anytime last night i called her just to make sure she was ok she never returned calls i was up all night worrying about her i just want to see her happy she says shes getting papers next wk and getting a different job out of town because she wants to start over and everybody in town is talking about her 99 percent sure nobody else involved i will do anything for her i tell her i love her everyday with no response other than she says shes numb to all feelings i think she might be bipolar broken hearted

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Sounds to me...

From what you describe, it sounds to me as if your wife is in major job burnout. If she works the hours you describe, she has no time for a life, much less a marriage. Where does she find the time to go to her friend's parties? She should be coming home to you for support. She's courting physical and emotional collapse. No one can work like that forever. There is a price to be paid and she just got the first "installment," i.e. depression.

That "starting over" might sound good to her right now, but it seems to me that she is the problem right now, not the job, marriage, etc. Your description of her reminds me of an engine revved up to the point where it comes apart. If you love her, you might want to be around when she "comes apart."

"When you're going through Hell, for God's sake, keep going!" (Winston Churchill)

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