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my parents midlife crisis.
It was a cold Saturday and the and my whole family was was eating pop corns while watching a comedy movie it felt really nice..
i was talking to my mum about how i was worried about my brother that he wasn't good at school and you know all these kind of stuff but the answer was shocking my mum said"i don't give a f***." I was was so shocked that i left the room and and went to the bathroom to take a break . then i came back to sit down when a saw my father going out dressed like a teenager ,he looked so weird that we all started to laugh so hard that we thought he was joking !!
He said"what are you laughing at?" then we understood that he was serious...it was even so late for anyone to go out but he did . then my mum said "let him go to his b****."
MY mum was the most delicate and sweet person i ever knew what happened to her and my dad?? it popped in my head that they were going through a midlife crisis my mum is 42 and my dad is 46 so it is possible.
so i took my mum a side and asked her what was that all about?
she was amazed that i noticed something different,because she claims that nothing is going on and my mum don't drink at all so i let go of the conversation and went to my room to sleep ,the next day i woke and found my mum putting on weird make up ..... and my dad was not even home yet .
What should i do ? how can i tell my mum that what she is doing is wrong and probably a midlife crisis without making her feel bad because she always had such confident and pride of her self .
please help!
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Re: My Parent's MidLife Crisis
It seems that the children are the first to notice and the one's that get the most hurt by their parents mid-life crisis. You are the innocents in all of this because you have the least control, especially if both of your parents are in denial.
Your mother seems to know more than she is letting on to you. Just her comment that that she knows that your father is going out to be with another woman is evidence that she knows that your father is going through a a Mid-Life Crisis. She may not want to burden you with what she knows or she may not want to admit what is happening to her marriage/relationship.
Many times when one partner is in Crisis at Mid-life...it will throw the other in to one themselves. It makes the betrayed partner question themselves, attacks their self-esteem...the rug is pulled out from under them...fear may set in depending on the the families financial situation/circumstances.
My best advice for you is to encourage your mother and even your father to get in to counseling, along with getting counseling for yourself and any other siblings that you have; come to web sites like this one and learn more about this time in their lives. Encourage your mother to find forums or discussions groups that she can talk to about what is happening.(www.womeninmlc.lefora.com is one) Going through these sorts of situations is very lonely, embarassing...knowing that she is not the lone soldier will give her strength and keep her confidence intact, along with encouragement and advice that will get her through her days.
You are a great kid to take the time to research this...even to ask for advice...your parents are two very lucky people. Be strong, help your parents with your siblings...please know one thing...none of this is about you or sisters/brothers...even your mother...Crisis at MidLife happens within an individual...how they cope, unresolved issues, an inability to handle change....it is not about YOU...so don't blame yourself.
I also found this article that might be of interest to you: How Children Can Help Immature Parents Through Mid-Life Crisis http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/1700665/how_children_can_help_i...
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