Book Review: "Date or Wait" by The Dating Goddess

Our own Dating Goddess has just released 13 books (yes, 13). They are based on her daily blog postings and cover the complete spectrum of midlife dating from a decidedly women's perspective.

One of the books, "Date or Wait: Are You Ready for Mr. Great?" focuses on the steps one needs to take to re-enter the dating scene. For many the concept of dating again is a scary prospect and a significant portion of the book addresses how you can sum up the courage to move out of your comfort zone even if just for an afternoon or evening.

Dating Goddess' approach is that midlife dating is a lot less risky than you might think. By proper screening and expectation setting you can keep "bad" dates to a minimum. And no matter what happens on the date, you stand to learn something about yourself and what you are looking for in a mate:

You get a chance to examine your thoughts and feelings which led to the actions. And you also get to examine how you felt about yourself afterwards. All of which makes for a very rich personal-growth seminar!

Dating Goddess recommends taking the pressure off of finding "The One" and instead focus on having fun, meeting interesting people, and constantly learning more. By doing these you will somewhat paradoxically increase your chances of finding your Mr. Right.

Middle age dating is something that the Dating Goddess knows a lot about. She reports having dated 91 men in 3.5 years after her 20-year marriage dissolved. With these stats it's not surprising that she says dating can be addicting. But doing it right takes time and effort. She likens it to the process of hunting for the right house. As everyone knows, successful house hunting requires time, prioritization, and visiting a lot of houses.

"Date or Wait" is a mixture of personal anecdotes and tips & strategies, including:

Show your openness and receptivity in many simple ways.

Set your own rules and boundaries instead of obligingly following others.

Practice flirting--with waiters, sky caps and others--when it's time to flirt with someone you are interested in you will feel more comfortable.

Don't let media's images of near-perfect people effect your expectations--both of your own looks and those of your potential partner.

Of course there is much, much more.

In addition to being an expert on dating as well as a prolific author, the Dating Goddess is a very good marketer and provides ample methods to "try before you buy":

Read the Dating Goddess' blog postings on LifeTwo.

Sample the first 10 pages.

And once you buy the book you can download a free eBook, "Attract Your Next Great Mate: Dating Advice From Top Relationship Experts."

If you are a newly single women re-entering the dating scene it is hard to imagine a more credible source or a more appropriate book than "Date or Wait". If you are further along in your midlife dating then any number of the 12 other books is probably right for you.