Do You Own Your Spouse ?

I wanted to start this topic because its something I think of often in my line of work as a Licensed Private Investigator. I have so many clients victims of adultery that are understandably upset over adultery, hurt and betrayed. To the point of domestic violence and even murder. Betrayal is a horrible emotion and its so painful and hurtful in so many ways. I think with men the betrayal is a little different because it is more of a strike against his manhood, or masculinity, or his home. With women we take betrayal internally and intimately as our womb is so sacred to our inner being, we protect it and we feel violated, with threat of disease and inner sanctity. Its the way we view marriage, that makes the difference. I have so many clients that view marriage like ownership papers, or title to a car or a house or a lottery winning. They say.. your mine now. They actually think they own thier spouse when they get married. Not true. I just wish and want to make clear that Marriage is not an ownership, or title to your spouse, you cant own people, slavery is over in our country, we dont own our spouses when we get married, we all have free will. Marriage is two individuals that promise and vow with thier own free will to be faithful to each other. Basically they make a promise of fidelity. Promises can be broken I see it everyday, free will gives us all the right to change or minds and break a vow or promise, such promise can be taken away or changed at anytime. Its our right to do so. Having said the above, with free will comes responsibilties and if your no longer in love with your spouse and your cheating or wanting to be with someone else, go and officially break the marriage vows officially first. Its still going to hurt your spouce but at least you have done all the right things as best you could do in such a sad and bad situation. The reason Im stating all of this is that many have a misconception of marriage my estimates are more than 80 percent of my clients feel they own thier spouce and that the spouse has gotten away, like a trapped animal or pet. Marriage was never intended to be ownership or any form of it. It was intended for two free souls to vow to love, honor, chersh and to be together faithfully through sickness and health better or worse, etc.. Period. When a spouse breaks this vow, if either partner has a misconception of what marriage really is and thinks they own thier spouse, such thinking can cause domestic violence and or even death. So ask yourself, do I own my spouse. If you say yes, then please re-think the concept of marriage and realize, your spouse is with you by choice and can leave by choice too. Lets break the misconception of marriage vows in this 21st century.. and get the message out. You did not give up yourself or your life when you got married. All you did was make a promise and you can take that back just like your spouce can. So think about it and honor the vows. If not get out legally. So the next time you hear your girlfriends saying I make my husband mow and weed the yard or men when you tell your buddies, I make my wife cook and wash my clothes, step back for a moment and realize that you dont make them do anything. They do it by choice as part of a vow a promise that they can take back. So appreciate the things spouses do for you out of love, vow and promise.