“I’m Not Just Some Girl You Met on the Internet”

A few weeks ago on “Private Practice” two colleagues decided to take their sexual chemistry to the “friends with benefits” level. However, when in the bedroom ready to commence, she couldn’t go through with it, claiming that sex together would cheapen their relationship.

She exclaims, “I’m not just some girl you met on the Internet.”

In other words, she’s saying that Internet dating sites are the equivalent to hookup sites — prostitution without payment. Easy sex. Women who list themselves on the sites must be loose.

Hmmm.

I suppose this perception by some has made Internet dating seem tawdry to them, or just for the desperate with few other choices. For losers or the promiscuous.

This does explain, however, how quickly some men have come on to me. I am not a hot babe, wearing revealing come-hither attire. But some men have acted like first-date sex is the norm. Or even second-date sex.

Is it that the anonymousness allows people to pursue their most basic needs — sex — with impunity? For many — especially those in midlife — Internet dating has replaced the bar scene. In their youth it might have been common to go to a club and hook up with someone for the night. Or for many, that’s what their friends did, even if they weren’t successful at it. So now instead of a bar, they have a drink date and see where it leads. They hope it leads to the bedroom, if enough drinks are imbibed. So what if he has to spring for a $50 dinner. What a small price for a quick roll in the hay! Less than a hooker and he didn’t have to drive through the scary part of town.

Have you noticed that men you meet on the Internet have an expectation of sex earlier than men you meet through other methods? If so, why do you think the expectation is different?
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