Update

Hi everyone as i havent posted for a while i thought i'd give an update - well firstly those who read all my posts in the midlife wife section will know what i am about - you would also have noted my best friend and his partner also split and he came to stay with me well yesterday he moved back home i like to think that all my experiences i imparted on him and his partner helped to make that decision - ive told them it wont be easy - my wife came back but left again so they are both aware that they both have to put some legwork into the relationship. Christmas wasnt a very good time really but it hardened me, as i said in my post i bought a present and card but i never got as much as a text xmas or new year so i think that toughened me made me even more resolute but still without bitterness - i entered into 2008 with a postive mindset, a mentality of right this year its about me i have been on this road for 22 months (aprt from brief 3 month back together) but i made my mind up that i had to move on that extra bit to really enjoy my life, now the house is sold STC and more importantly after 9 months on my own where i havent really pursued anything on the female front - i was out on Sunday in a bar near my house and was chatting to a younger woman working behind bar just general chat as opposed to the usual suggestive remarks from customers, what struck me and i didnt really notice is she starting chatting me up i knew she used to work in another bar i used to go in teh odd time and found her attractive but as she was a fair bit younger didnt think of it, anyway she finished her shift and left, i said to my friend she's nice her i should have asked for her number but didnt want to seem like the others, my friend ran out of the bar and asked for her number for me (i know its corny) but she gave it him anyway to cut a long story short ive chatted to with her and we are going out this week - what im saying is for once i feel wow someones interested in me what happened to me killed my confidence i built it back up over time and now as ive said in my posts you get "there" i think i'm nearly there, im gettign the butterfly feelings i thougth had died, im feeling alive chatting with this girl, i know she is genuine by our conversation so what i want to say to those still on this journey is there is someone out there, you will find happiness again, i dont know where this will lead with me but i know i like her, i know my strengths and resolve have kept me up there but most importantly ive at last been able to shut the door on my feelings for my estranged wife and if just if i get on with this girl and we like each other i know now i have the strength to say sorry no if my wief comes knocking back - just keep moving foreard everyone and you too will get "there"
Stu
UK