My Spouse is Cheating; Infidelity stories and advice

I haven't been in this situation.

So I just wanted to ask you, what is it about you that let this man stay when he was unfaithful to you? Do you not believe yourself as worthy to have someone be faithful to you?

I know that my worth is more than it's weight in gold. I'm a christian woman and this is my second marriage. I thought that I was doing everything that my husband wanted from a wife. He never wanted for sex any way at anytime he wanted it, he got it. I guess that I got so caught up in ensuring that the children were taken care of, our finances were taken care of as well as both of our careers. We are both professional with bachelors degrees with 12(me) and 13(him) years at our companies. I don't want to do the dating thing again. The pool of eligible men are shrinking dramatically and I don't want to put my kids through anymore stepparent issues.

Sorry. I think just coming here to LifeTwo is a step in undergoing the changes you are going through. It's helped me a lot! People like me, who haven't gotten cheated on, always say they'd just leave right away. But people who have been with a cheating spouse say it's not that easy, especially where kids are concerned.

I've also observed in my life that a wife or husband can be great, beautiful, caring, etc. and if the spouse wants to cheat, they will. So, God Bless!

LA

To the original poster - The pool of "good" men is not shrinking so don't feel the clock is running out on you. I was a good man that got the boot last October. 23 years of naval service with multiple overseas deployments and not ONCE was I unfaithful to my wife.
So slow down.
You speak a bit about sex as well. A successful relationship does not revolve around sex soley, it revolves around everything else. If the only thing we live for in a relationship is sex, then Lord help us as we grow older.
If you are a Christian as you say, use your faith and the fellowship of the church to help. I am 42 and I know the 'clock is running' but you know what's #1 to me? My two boys. God will guide me to another spouse when He feels the time is right; but for now my boys are my priority. Your legacy lies with your children. Use strong character to show them how mom gets through the tough times.
What you do in this life defines your role in His Kingdom. This life is nothing but a breath compared to the eternity we have with Him.
Mr. Right will come, but just don't go looking for him. Don't rush what God has planned for you.

-Jim

I really thank you for your comments they were very encouraging. I know that God is yet still in control. My 4 year old was walking through the house a couple of days ago singing a song that we often sing in church, "God is in Control of My Life". They are a blessing and my top priority is to ensure that they are trained up in the way that they should go. My little one consistently looks for his dad as well as my niece. When we leave the house and come home he asks if he's here as well as my niece looking for his car in the driveway. My parents separated when I was only 6 months old and all my life I wondered what it would have been like to come home to both parents. My mother loved my father and he her, but he too couldn't stop cheating. Ultimately he loved other women more than he loved his 5 girls. All of my sisters have had horrible relationship problems with men. My father passed away almost 4 years ago with many regrets of not being with us. Although he loved us, he had lots of problems dealing with my mom who I'm very similar to at the same point in her life. We missed out on a lot of things because my mother chose to leave my father and sometimes we ask her why didn't she have enough faith to believe that he would change. I truly love my husband but I don't know if he wants to change.

so whats the beeg deal if i cheat but stay with her - all g

I just learned that the "one less" commercial about the human papilloma virus that causes cervical cancer, for which there is now a vaccine, could also be used to prevent some types of ORAL CANCER that can be spread by...how would a guy get the cervical cancer virus into his mouth?

Oh yeah, what was I saying. Oh, there's nothing wrong with cheating as long as you stay married...whatever...

I will keep you in my prayers. You have completely missed the meaning of marriage.

'Cause I was being sarcastic.