What song best represents how you are feeling?

I just posted the above question based on lyrics being quoted in a number of posts in one of our midlife crisis discussion groups. As I was sitting thinking what song captured how I feel right now Boston's "More Than a Feeling" came on the radio opening with:

Turned on some music to start my day I lost myself in a familiar song I closed my eyes and I slipped away It's more than a feeling, when I hear that old song they used to play

Well, that exactly why I posted the question...getting lost in a familiar song and it being more than just a feeling. I now turn it over to our regular contributors and as many new people who'd like to participate to tell me what song is speaking to them.

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This one by Keith Urban described my feelings when I first found out that my wife wanted a divorce. So many plans I had for us were shattered.

Alone in this house again tonight I got the TV on, the sound turned down and a bottle of wine There's pictures of you and I on the walls around me The way that it was and could have been surrounds me I'll never get over you walkin' away

I've never been the kind to ever let my feelings show And I thought that bein' strong meant never losin' your self-control But I'm just drunk enough to let got of my pain To hell with my pride, let it fall like rain From my eyes Tonight I wanna cry

Would it help if I turned a sad song on 'All By Myself' would sure hit me hard now that you're gone Or maybe unfold some old yellow lost love letters It's gonna hurt bad before it gets better But I'll never get over you by hidin' this way

I've never been the kind to ever let my feelings show And I thought that bein' strong meant never losin' your self-control But I'm just drunk enough to let got of my pain To hell with my pride, let it fall like rain From my eyes Tonight I wanna cry

I've never been the kind to ever let my feelings show And I thought that bein' strong meant never losin' your self-control But I'm just drunk enough to let got of my pain To hell with my pride, let it fall like rain From my eyes Tonight I wanna cry

-Jim

Wesley, I thought about those words from Boston when I longed for somebody Ive never met. That was 23 years ago but they will soon come into play again. The words I find suitable for me now while working through this mess of MLC are the words from ABBA - "My love My life" As time goes by however I will get over them.

I've seen it on your face Tells me more than any worn-out old phrase So now we'll go separate ways Never again we two Never again, nothing I can do

Like an image passing by, my love, my life In the mirror of your eyes, my love, my life I can see it all so clearly Answer me sincerely Was it a dream, a lie? Like reflections of your mind, my love, my life Are the words you try to find, my love, my life But I know I don't possess you So go away, God bless you You are still my love and my life Still my one and only

I've watched you look away Tell me is it really so hard to say? Oh, this has been my longest day Sitting here close to you Knowing that maybe tonight we're through

Like an image passing by, my love, my life In the mirror of your eyes, my love, my life I can see it all so clearly Answer me sincerely Was it a dream, a lie? Like reflections of your mind, my love, my life Are the words you try to find, my love, my life But I know I don't possess you So go away, God bless you You are still my love and my life Yes I know I don't possess you So go away, God bless you You are still my love and my life Still my one and only

Cheers

Jose Padilla instrumental - who needs words?

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I love Pandora.com - if you decide to put together a play list!

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Not really a Twisted Sister fan, but given what me and my daughter are going through with my spouse here is how we feel...

OH WE'RE NOT GONNA TAKE IT NO, WE AIN'T GONNA TAKE IT OH WE'RE NOT GONNA TAKE IT ANYMORE

OH YOU'RE SO CONDESCENDING YOUR GALL IS NEVER ENDING WE DON'T WANT NOTHIN', NOT A THING FROM YOU YOUR LIFE IS TRITE AND JADED BORING AND CONFISCATED IF THAT'S YOUR BEST, YOUR BEST WON'T DO

I feel better just writing this!

-tt

I wrote this about 9 months ago:

Love can be cruel…. love can be kind It manifests itself in many ways and hijacks my mind I try to understand it….. I try to work it out But all I see is a mystery and a head full of doubt

Life can be wonderful…life can be hard It can all be dictated on the turn of a card I try to understand it….to see it what it is But all I find is a puzzled mind with a long lost kiss

Can you see what It’s doing …does it make any sense It’ll try to undermine you and take you over the fence Is it really this painful….can it all be resolved Love can be cruel without getting too involved

Now I look to the future….can I see what lie’s ahead A love unkind with a state of mind in a cold and empty bed And I wish I could go back….I wish I could have more Of a life of love and happiness that I had once before

Regards Stu UK

Been playing this one a lot lately.

If I'd Been The One

I've been lost inside, empty space in my heart And some things never change, oh How it hurts me and how it's tearin' me apart And it just goes on and on

Can you read my mind Take a good look at my face Could you take the time Just to stand here in my place

What if I'd been the one to say goodbye, goodbye Could you smile when inside you just wanna cry, look inside Can you read my mind? Oh oh

When I hear your name Feel so cold deep inside Still it's hard to explain, oh What your love meant to me They say time will heal the pain But it just goes on forever

Can you read my mind Have you closed the door on love Can you be so blind Did you think I'd just give up

Chorus:

What if I'd been the one to say goodbye, goodbye Could you smile when inside you just wanna cry, wanna cry What if I'd been the one to say goodbye, goodbye Could you smile when it hurts so deep inside And it never fades away, Fade away

Time can't erase the reasons why Count my mistakes and the heartaches Since you said goodbye

(chorus)

Never fades away, no it don't fade away

I'll check that one out Buddy - the lyrics are very meaningful - my daughter is a big fan of the Dixie Chicks and their song "A cold day in July" is one i can relate with - i learnt to play it also so often sing it to myself, there are so many emotional songs i sit, sing and strum to .....my whole life is played back to me through words and music

Regards Stu UK

Stu, you play the guitar? I have an Alvarez I strum. I prefer acoustic over my electric. Especially when it comes to love songs.

-Jim

Hi Jim - well i play to a fashion - i dont read musoc but ok on chords - i have a tanglewood acoustic and also a semi acoustic and i have just bought a bass guitar to learn - i look up on the net for songs with their tabs and chords and i have learnt quite a lot of songs i particularly like to sing those love songs/ballads that have meaning to our situation - last year i even wrote one and cut it to cd and gave it her - she cried - that what drives me on all the things she has said and intimated over the months - if the umbillical is cut then i say ok but i know in my heart it isnt so yeah i want to write a really good one and put the music to it - cheers Stu

Regards Stu UK

The Great Pretender by The Platters _____

Oh yes, I'm the great pretender Pretending that I'm doing well My need is such I pretend too much I'm lonely even no one can tell

Oh yes, I'm the great pretender Adrift in a world of my own I play the game, but to my real shame You've left me to dream all alone

Too real is this feeling of make-believe Too real when I feel what my heart can't conceal

Oh yes, I'm the great pretender Just laughing and gay like a clown I seem to be what I'm not, you see I'm wearing my heart like a crown Pretending that you're still around

Too real is this feeling of make-believe Too real when I feel what my heart can't conceal

Oh yes, I'm the great pretender Just laughing and gay like a clown I seem to be what I'm not, you see I'm wearing my heart like a clown Pretending that you're... Still around (You're around)

There are so many good songs out there that I feel apply to me right now but to name a few, "Winner at at losing Game" by Rascal Flatts or a couple off the Eagles' latest CD, Long road out of Eden. (great album by the way) You guys have to check out " What do I do with my heart?" or "Do something" on this CD. If anything good has come out of all this turmoil, I have purchased a new acoustic guitar and I have gone back to playing as a form of therapy. I guess we all have things that help us relax. Take care everyone and try to enjoy the holidays as best you can.

Used to Hurt So Much, now just Mad....

Ive just learnt to play this by Enrique Iglesias - lovely song and very meaningful for me, called Somebody's Me

You, do you remember me?, Like, I remember you? Do you spend your life, going back in your mind to that time?, Cause I, I walk the streets alone, I hate being on my own, and everyone can see that, I really fell, and I'm going through hell. Thinking about you with somebody else.

Somebody wants you, Somebody needs you. Somebody dreams about you every single night. Somebody cant breathe, without you it's lonely. Somebody hopes that one day you will see, that somebody's me. That somebody's me. yeaa...

How, how did we go wrong? It was so good, and now it's gone, And I pray at night, that our path's soon will cross. What we had, isn't lost. Cause you are always right here in my thoughts..

Somebody wants you, Somebody needs you. Somebody dreams about you every single night. Somebody can't breathe, without you it's lonely. Somebody hopes that someday you will see, That somebody's me. Oh yeah...

You will always be in my life, even if im not in your life. Cause you're in my memory...

You, when you remember me?... And before you set me free, oh listen please...

Somebody wants you, Somebody needs you. Somebody dreams about you every single night. Somebody cant breathe, without you it's lonely. Somebody hopes that someday you will see, that somebody's me. That somebody's me. Somebody's me... That somebody's me... That somebody's me... Oh yeah...

Stu UK

I'd sing not only this song, but add Rollingstones "You can't always get what you want" both songs describe how I feel what I'm going through right now. I wish I could take a magic wand and wave it right now, just so I could go through this trial that I'm going through. This is like my 6th midlife crisis, you'd think I'd learn through each one, but I have to live through it and learn from it each time. I went through one in my early 30s, another one in my mid 30s, another one in my early forties, another one in my mid forties, one when I turned 50, and now in my 55th year. This makes another career hurdle in my two portfolio careers, banking/finance/insurance administration and retail sales and sales management. Too many detours in between has been my stumblingblock. Each time I've had to pick myself up and learn. I'm a serious student of life. God help me as I go through another trial where I feel like Job in the Bible.

A Pirate Looks at 40 Jimmy Buffet

Mother, mother ocean, I have heard you call, Wanted to sail upon your waters since I was three feet tall. You've seen it all, you've seen it all.

Watch the men who rode you, Switch from sails to steam. And in your belly you hold the treasure that few have ever seen, most of them dreams, Most of them dreams.

Yes, I am a pirate two hundred years too late. The cannons don't thunder there's nothin' to plunder I'm an over forty victim of fate Arriving too late, arriving too late.

I've done a bit of smugglin' I've run my share of grass. I made enough money to buy Miami, But I pissed it away so fast, Never meant to last, never meant to last.

I have been drunk now for over two weeks, I passed out and I rallied and I sprung a few leaks, But I've got to stop wishin', Got to go fishin', I'm down to rock bottom again. Just a few friends, just a few friends.

Instrumental

I go for younger women, lived with several awhile And though I ran away, they'll come back one day. And still could manage a smile It just takes awhile, just takes awhile.

Mother, mother ocean, after all these years I've found My occupational hazard being my occupations just not around. I feel like I've drowned, Gonna head uptown.

I knew it was only a matter of time before a Jimmy Buffet song was listed. :)

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I've been posting over in another topic, "Will my marriage survive my husband's midlife crisis?" Well, my marriage DID survive it; my husband came home 4 days before Christmas. That's a whole other post, and it will be coming soon. For the topic at hand though...my chosen song is an oldie which will send you over to You Tube by the end of this: "Carry On" by Crosby, Stills, Nash & Young. Back in the day most of the lyrics were lost to me, other than the familiar, "Carry on, love is coming, love is coming to us all." The promise of a warm & fuzzy future.

My journey over the last 6 months is expressed in different parts of the song. At the beginning, when he left: "One morning, I woke up and I knew You were really gone. A new day, a new way, I knew I should see it along Go your way, I'll go mine and carry on..."

BUT he did come back: "The sky is clearing and the night has gone out The sun, he come, the world is all full of light Rejoice, rejoice, we have no choice But to carry on..."

The initial joy is yet overshadowed by a trust which needs to be rebuilt; questions & fears which need to be addressed; a need for communication and reassurance: "Where are you going now my love?" Where will you be tomorrow? Will you bring me happiness? Will you bring me sorrow? Oh, the questions of a thousand dreams What you do and what you see Lover, CAN YOU TALK TO ME?"

One Big Love by EmmyLou Harris (to the best of my recollection)

Let's take a ride to the seaside We can go out swimming in the high tide Just wear your shorts and your long hair Don't forget the lawn chairs

Everybody's going to the movies Everybody's going and it's groovy It's the one all about the big war I've seen it before

I guess I'm taking my chances Giving up the ring for a couple of wings On a little white dove And One Big Love

No sense defending your honor Just go on and kiss her if you wanna...

(sorry I forget the rest.)

"In God's Hands"

I looked at your face I saw that all the love had died I saw that we had forgotten to take the time I, I saw that you couldn't care less about what you do Couldn't care less about the lies You couldn't find the time to cry

We forgot about love We forgot about faith We forgot about trust We forgot about us

Now our love's floating out the window Our love's floating out the back door Our love's floating up in the sky in heaven Where it began back in God's hands

You said that you had said all that you had to say You said baby it's the end of the day And we gave a lot but it wasn't enough We got so tired that we just gave up

We didn't respect it We went and neglected it We didn't deserve it But I never expected this

Our love floated out the window Our love floated out the back door Our love floated up in the sky to heaven It's part of a plan It's back in God's hands Back in God's hands

It didn't last It's a thing of the past Oh we didn't understand Just what we had Oh I want it back Just what we had Oh I want it back Oh just what we had

I have been singing this song in the back of my head for years. Little did I know how true it was. My wife of 25 years dropped the "I don't love you any more" bomb 2 weeks ago. Today we moved her into her own apartment while she works on her MLC.

I Can't Make You Love Me Bonnie Raitt

Turn down the lights, turn down the bed Turn down these voices inside my head Lay down with me, tell me no lies Just hold me close, don't patronize - don't patronize me

CHORUS: Cause I can't make you love me if you don't You can't make your heart feel something it won't Here in the dark, in these final hours I will lay down my heart and I'll feel the power But you won't, no you won't 'Cause I can't make you love me, if you don't

I'll close my eyes, then I won't see The love you don't feel when you're holding me

Morning will come and I'll do what's right Just give me till then to give up this fight And I will give up this fight

CHORUS: Cause I can't make you love me if you don't You can't make your heart feel something it won't Here in the dark, in these final hours I will lay down my heart and I'll feel the power But you won't, no you won't 'Cause I can't make you love me, if you don't

Have been listening to this song for months because I want a divorce sooooo bad and truly "It's too late!!"

There's something wrong here, there can be no denying One of us is changing, or maybe we've stopped trying

And it's too late, baby, now it's too late Though we really did try to make it Something inside has died and I can't hide And I just can't fake it

It used to be so easy living here with you You were light and breezy and I knew just what to do Now you look so unhappy, and I feel like a fool

And it's too late, baby, now it's too late Though we really did try to make it Something inside has died and I can't hide And I just can't fake it

There'll be good times again for me and you But we just can't stay together, don't you feel it too Still I'm glad for what we had, and how I once loved you

But it's too late, baby, it's too late Though we really did try to make it Something inside has died and I can't hide

(Steve Forbert - Streets of this town...) I'll lock myself away and not face one more day On the streets of this town And all I've got to lose, is a feelin' called the blues And a little ol' frown;

I signed your dotted line and did my best at tryin', Givin' all I could give And all I've gotten back is this feelin' that I lack What I'm needing to live

And you say you don't see it when a grown man starts to cry, You turn your face away and you walk on by. I found myself a girl who brightened up my world From december to may And then ran off with Jim, but I'll defer to him And his purple beret 'Cause he knows how to wheel and deal and not to feel When he's knockin' you down And I know he'll succeed ' cause thats just what you need On the streets of this town

And you say you don't see it when a grown man starts to cry, You turn your face away and you walk on by.

I'll lock myself away and not face one more day On the streets of this town And all I've got to lose, is a feelin' called the blues That's been going around; I fit your crazy norm and wore your uniform Where you told me to go And got back in return this here feelin' that I've learned What the Indians know

And you say you don't see it when a grown man starts to cry, You turn your face away and you walk on by.

My favorite song was written by Leigh and Richards. Frank Sinatra recorded it in 1952...

"Fairy Tales can come true, it can happen to you. If you're Young at Heart."

Being a transplant recipient it obviously speaks to me.

But few songs are as well composed as Hoagy Carmichaels "Stardust" though it can be argued that he may have borrowed it from someone else, and the lyrics were written long after the melody. If you're not familiar with it, Steve Tyrell does a fine contemporary version.

This song is by Lenny Kravits and somedays I feel this way I'll Be waiting He broke your heart He took your soul You're hurt inside 'Cause there's a hole You need some time to be alone then you will find what you've always known

I'm the one who really love ya, baby I've been knockin' at your door

and as long as I'm livin' I'll be waitin' as long as I'm breathin' I'll be there whenever you call me I'll be waitin' whenever you need me I'll be there I've seen ya cry into the night I feel your pain can I make it right? I realize there's no end in sight yet still I wait for you to see the light I'm the one who really loves ya, baby I can't take it anymore and as long as I'm livin' I'll be waitin' as long as I'm breathin' I'll be there whenever you call me I'll be waitin' whenever you need me I'll be there You are the only one I've ever known that makes me feel this way, couldn't on my own I wanna be with you until we're old you've got the love you need right in front of you, please come home as long as I'm livin' I'll be waitin' as long as I'm breathin' I'll be there whenever you call me I'll be waitin' whenever you need me I'll be there as long as I'm livin' I'll be waitin' as long as I'm breathin' I'll be there whenever you call me I'll be waitin' whenever you need me I'll be there

Other days I feel like Chris Daughtry song Overyou Now that it's all said and done, I can't believe you were the one To build me up and tear me down, Like an old abandoned house. What you said when you left Just left me cold and out of breath. I fell too far, was in way too deep. Guess I let you get the best of me.

Well, I never saw it coming. And I should've started running A long, long time ago. And I never thought I'd doubt you, I'm better off without you More than you, more than you know. I'm slowly getting closure. I guess it's really over. I'm finally getting better. And now I'm picking up the pieces. From spending all of these years Putting my heart back together. 'Cause the day I thought I'd never get through, I got over you.

You took a hammer to these walls, Dragged the memories down the hall, Packed your bags and walked away. There was nothing I could say. And when you slammed the front door shut, A lot of others opened up, So did my eyes so I could see That you never were the best for me.

Well, I never saw it coming. And I should've started running A long, long time ago. And I never thought I'd doubt you, I'm better off without you More than you, more than you know. I'm slowly getting closure. I guess it's really over. I'm finally getting better. And now I'm picking up the pieces. From spending all of these years Putting my heart back together. 'Cause the day I thought I'd never get through, I got over you.

Well, I never saw it coming. And I should've started running A long, long time ago. And I never thought I'd doubt you, I'm better off without you More than you, more than you know.

Well, I never saw it coming. And I should've started running A long, long time ago. And I never thought I'd doubt you, I'm better off without you More than you, more than you know. I'm slowly getting closure. I guess it's really over. I'm finally getting better. And now I'm picking up the pieces. From spending all of these years Putting my heart back together. Well I'm putting my heart back together, 'Cause I got over you. Well I got over you. I got over you. 'Cause the day I thought I'd never get through, I got over you.

I get really confused somedays

Father forgive us for what we must do you forgive us we'll forgive you we'll forgive each other til we both turn blue then we'll whistle and go fishin' in heaven.

How about "MY GIVE A DAMM IS BROKEN" Debi

I too hear "It's to late...." in surround sound 24/7 Good Choice!

FEELING GOOD (love Michael Buble' version)

Birds flyin' high you know how I feel Sun in the sky you know how I feel Breeze driftin' on by you know how I feel Its a new dawn, its a new day, its a new life for me yeah, its a new dawn its a new day its a new life for me ooooooooh AND I'M FEELING GOOD

Fish in the sea, you know how I feel River runnin' free you know how I feel Blossom on the tree you know how I feel Its a new dawn, its a new day, its a new life for me And I'm feelin good

Dragonfly out in the sun you know what i mean dont you know Butterflies all havin' fun you know what I mean Sleepin' peace when day is done that's what I mean And this old world is a new world and a bold world for me

Stars when you shine you know how I feel Scent of the crime you know how I feel Your freedom is mine, and I know how I feel Its a new dawn, its a new day, its a new life for me (Free styling) OH I'M FEELING GOOOOOOOOOOOOOD

Ever heard the song "Torn Between 2 Lovers:.

You know how it goes: Torn between 2 lovers, feeling like a fool Lovin' both of you is breakin' all the rules.

Check it out sometime, you'll get what I mean.

MLC?? I think, because I'm thinking more about an old flame all the time, see him now and then and that song just plays over and over in my head. Do I want a divorce, no...not really..but wish I'd done things differently. Have quit my job, have new one - but want to work, and dont' want to work, want things, then don't want them....feel like a kid having the terrible twos!!! HELP!!