What song best represents how you are feeling?

I just posted the above question based on lyrics being quoted in a number of posts in one of our midlife crisis discussion groups. As I was sitting thinking what song captured how I feel right now Boston's "More Than a Feeling" came on the radio opening with:

Turned on some music to start my day
I lost myself in a familiar song
I closed my eyes and I slipped away
It's more than a feeling, when I hear that old song they used to play

Well, that exactly why I posted the question...getting lost in a familiar song and it being more than just a feeling. I now turn it over to our regular contributors and as many new people who'd like to participate to tell me what song is speaking to them.

Wesley Hein
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This one by Keith Urban described my feelings when I first found out that my wife wanted a divorce. So many plans I had for us were shattered.

Alone in this house again tonight
I got the TV on, the sound turned down and a bottle of wine
There's pictures of you and I on the walls around me
The way that it was and could have been surrounds me
I'll never get over you walkin' away

I've never been the kind to ever let my feelings show
And I thought that bein' strong meant never losin' your self-control
But I'm just drunk enough to let got of my pain
To hell with my pride, let it fall like rain
From my eyes
Tonight I wanna cry

Would it help if I turned a sad song on
'All By Myself' would sure hit me hard now that you're gone
Or maybe unfold some old yellow lost love letters
It's gonna hurt bad before it gets better
But I'll never get over you by hidin' this way

I've never been the kind to ever let my feelings show
And I thought that bein' strong meant never losin' your self-control
But I'm just drunk enough to let got of my pain
To hell with my pride, let it fall like rain
From my eyes
Tonight I wanna cry

I've never been the kind to ever let my feelings show
And I thought that bein' strong meant never losin' your self-control
But I'm just drunk enough to let got of my pain
To hell with my pride, let it fall like rain
From my eyes
Tonight I wanna cry

-Jim

Wesley, I thought about those words from Boston when I longed for somebody Ive never met. That was 23 years ago but they will soon come into play again.
The words I find suitable for me now while working through this mess of MLC are the words from ABBA - "My love My life" As time goes by however I will get over them.

I've seen it on your face
Tells me more than any worn-out old phrase
So now we'll go separate ways
Never again we two
Never again, nothing I can do

Like an image passing by, my love, my life
In the mirror of your eyes, my love, my life
I can see it all so clearly
Answer me sincerely
Was it a dream, a lie?
Like reflections of your mind, my love, my life
Are the words you try to find, my love, my life
But I know I don't possess you
So go away, God bless you
You are still my love and my life
Still my one and only

I've watched you look away
Tell me is it really so hard to say?
Oh, this has been my longest day
Sitting here close to you
Knowing that maybe tonight we're through

Like an image passing by, my love, my life
In the mirror of your eyes, my love, my life
I can see it all so clearly
Answer me sincerely
Was it a dream, a lie?
Like reflections of your mind, my love, my life
Are the words you try to find, my love, my life
But I know I don't possess you
So go away, God bless you
You are still my love and my life
Yes I know I don't possess you
So go away, God bless you
You are still my love and my life
Still my one and only

Cheers

Jose Padilla
instrumental - who needs words?

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I love Pandora.com - if you decide to put together a play list!

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Not really a Twisted Sister fan, but given what me and my daughter are going through with my spouse here is how we feel...

OH WE'RE NOT GONNA TAKE IT
NO, WE AIN'T GONNA TAKE IT
OH WE'RE NOT GONNA TAKE IT ANYMORE

OH YOU'RE SO CONDESCENDING
YOUR GALL IS NEVER ENDING
WE DON'T WANT NOTHIN', NOT A THING FROM YOU
YOUR LIFE IS TRITE AND JADED
BORING AND CONFISCATED
IF THAT'S YOUR BEST, YOUR BEST WON'T DO

I feel better just writing this!

-tt

I wrote this about 9 months ago:

Love can be cruel…. love can be kind
It manifests itself in many ways and hijacks my mind
I try to understand it….. I try to work it out
But all I see is a mystery and a head full of doubt

Life can be wonderful…life can be hard
It can all be dictated on the turn of a card
I try to understand it….to see it what it is
But all I find is a puzzled mind with a long lost kiss

Can you see what It’s doing …does it make any sense
It’ll try to undermine you and take you over the fence
Is it really this painful….can it all be resolved
Love can be cruel without getting too involved

Now I look to the future….can I see what lie’s ahead
A love unkind with a state of mind in a cold and empty bed
And I wish I could go back….I wish I could have more
Of a life of love and happiness that I had once before

Regards
Stu UK

Been playing this one a lot lately.

If I'd Been The One

I've been lost inside, empty space in my heart
And some things never change, oh
How it hurts me and how it's tearin' me apart
And it just goes on and on

Can you read my mind
Take a good look at my face
Could you take the time
Just to stand here in my place

What if I'd been the one to say goodbye, goodbye
Could you smile when inside you just wanna cry, look inside
Can you read my mind? Oh oh

When I hear your name
Feel so cold deep inside
Still it's hard to explain, oh
What your love meant to me
They say time will heal the pain
But it just goes on forever

Can you read my mind
Have you closed the door on love
Can you be so blind
Did you think I'd just give up

Chorus:

What if I'd been the one to say goodbye, goodbye
Could you smile when inside you just wanna cry, wanna cry
What if I'd been the one to say goodbye, goodbye
Could you smile when it hurts so deep inside
And it never fades away, Fade away

Time can't erase the reasons why
Count my mistakes and the heartaches
Since you said goodbye

(chorus)

Never fades away, no it don't fade away

I'll check that one out Buddy - the lyrics are very meaningful - my daughter is a big fan of the Dixie Chicks and their song "A cold day in July" is one i can relate with - i learnt to play it also so often sing it to myself, there are so many emotional songs i sit, sing and strum to .....my whole life is played back to me through words and music

Regards
Stu UK

Stu, you play the guitar? I have an Alvarez I strum. I prefer acoustic over my electric. Especially when it comes to love songs.

-Jim

Hi Jim - well i play to a fashion - i dont read musoc but ok on chords - i have a tanglewood acoustic and also a semi acoustic and i have just bought a bass guitar to learn - i look up on the net for songs with their tabs and chords and i have learnt quite a lot of songs i particularly like to sing those love songs/ballads that have meaning to our situation - last year i even wrote one and cut it to cd and gave it her - she cried - that what drives me on all the things she has said and intimated over the months - if the umbillical is cut then i say ok but i know in my heart it isnt so yeah i want to write a really good one and put the music to it - cheers Stu

Regards
Stu UK

The Great Pretender by The Platters
_____

Oh yes, I'm the great pretender
Pretending that I'm doing well
My need is such
I pretend too much
I'm lonely even no one can tell

Oh yes, I'm the great pretender
Adrift in a world of my own
I play the game, but to my real shame
You've left me to dream all alone

Too real is this feeling of make-believe
Too real when I feel what my heart can't conceal

Oh yes, I'm the great pretender
Just laughing and gay like a clown
I seem to be what I'm not, you see
I'm wearing my heart like a crown
Pretending that you're still around

Too real is this feeling of make-believe
Too real when I feel what my heart can't conceal

Oh yes, I'm the great pretender
Just laughing and gay like a clown
I seem to be what I'm not, you see
I'm wearing my heart like a clown
Pretending that you're...
Still around
(You're around)

There are so many good songs out there that I feel apply to me right now but to name a few, "Winner at at losing Game" by Rascal Flatts or a couple off the Eagles' latest CD, Long road out of Eden. (great album by the way) You guys have to check out " What do I do with my heart?" or "Do something" on this CD. If anything good has come out of all this turmoil, I have purchased a new acoustic guitar and I have gone back to playing as a form of therapy. I guess we all have things that help us relax. Take care everyone and try to enjoy the holidays as best you can.

Used to Hurt So Much, now just Mad....

Ive just learnt to play this by Enrique Iglesias - lovely song and very meaningful for me, called Somebody's Me

You, do you remember me?,
Like, I remember you?
Do you spend your life, going back in your mind to that time?,
Cause I, I walk the streets alone,
I hate being on my own, and everyone can see that,
I really fell, and I'm going through hell.
Thinking about you with somebody else.

Somebody wants you,
Somebody needs you.
Somebody dreams about you every single night.
Somebody cant breathe, without you it's lonely.
Somebody hopes that one day you will see, that somebody's me.
That somebody's me. yeaa...

How, how did we go wrong?
It was so good, and now it's gone,
And I pray at night, that our path's soon will cross.
What we had, isn't lost.
Cause you are always right here in my thoughts..

Somebody wants you,
Somebody needs you.
Somebody dreams about you every single night.
Somebody can't breathe, without you it's lonely.
Somebody hopes that someday you will see,
That somebody's me. Oh yeah...

You will always be in my life, even if im not in your life.
Cause you're in my memory...

You, when you remember me?...
And before you set me free, oh listen please...

Somebody wants you,
Somebody needs you.
Somebody dreams about you every single night.
Somebody cant breathe, without you it's lonely.
Somebody hopes that someday you will see, that somebody's me.
That somebody's me.
Somebody's me...
That somebody's me...
That somebody's me...
Oh yeah...

Stu
UK

I'd sing not only this song, but add Rollingstones "You can't always get what you want" both songs describe how I feel what I'm going through right now. I wish I could take a magic wand and wave it right now, just so I could go through this trial that I'm going through. This is like my 6th midlife crisis, you'd think I'd learn through each one, but I have to live through it and learn from it each time. I went through one in my early 30s, another one in my mid 30s, another one in my early forties, another one in my mid forties, one when I turned 50, and now in my 55th year. This makes another career hurdle in my two portfolio careers, banking/finance/insurance administration and retail sales and sales management. Too many detours in between has been my stumblingblock. Each time I've had to pick myself up and learn. I'm a serious student of life. God help me as I go through another trial where I feel like Job in the Bible.

A Pirate Looks at 40 Jimmy Buffet

Mother, mother ocean, I have heard you call,
Wanted to sail upon your waters
since I was three feet tall.
You've seen it all, you've seen it all.

Watch the men who rode you,
Switch from sails to steam.
And in your belly you hold the treasure
that few have ever seen, most of them dreams,
Most of them dreams.

Yes, I am a pirate two hundred years too late.
The cannons don't thunder there's nothin' to plunder
I'm an over forty victim of fate
Arriving too late, arriving too late.

I've done a bit of smugglin'
I've run my share of grass.
I made enough money to buy Miami,
But I pissed it away so fast,
Never meant to last, never meant to last.

I have been drunk now for over two weeks,
I passed out and I rallied and I sprung a few leaks,
But I've got to stop wishin',
Got to go fishin', I'm down to rock bottom again.
Just a few friends, just a few friends.

Instrumental

I go for younger women, lived with several awhile
And though I ran away, they'll come back one day.
And still could manage a smile
It just takes awhile, just takes awhile.

Mother, mother ocean, after all these years I've found
My occupational hazard being my occupations
just not around.
I feel like I've drowned,
Gonna head uptown.

I knew it was only a matter of time before a Jimmy Buffet song was listed. :)

Wesley Hein
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I've been posting over in another topic, "Will my marriage survive my husband's midlife crisis?" Well, my marriage DID survive it; my husband came home 4 days before Christmas. That's a whole other post, and it will be coming soon. For the topic at hand though...my chosen song is an oldie which will send you over to You Tube by the end of this: "Carry On" by Crosby, Stills, Nash & Young. Back in the day most of the lyrics were lost to me, other than the familiar, "Carry on, love is coming, love is coming to us all." The promise of a warm & fuzzy future.

My journey over the last 6 months is expressed in different parts of the song. At the beginning, when he left:
"One morning, I woke up and I knew You were really gone.
A new day, a new way, I knew
I should see it along
Go your way, I'll go mine and carry on..."

BUT he did come back:
"The sky is clearing and the night has gone out
The sun, he come, the world is all full of light
Rejoice, rejoice, we have no choice
But to carry on..."

The initial joy is yet overshadowed by a trust which needs to be rebuilt; questions & fears which need to be addressed; a need for communication and reassurance:
"Where are you going now my love?"
Where will you be tomorrow?
Will you bring me happiness?
Will you bring me sorrow?
Oh, the questions of a thousand dreams
What you do and what you see
Lover, CAN YOU TALK TO ME?"

One Big Love by EmmyLou Harris (to the best of my recollection)

Let's take a ride to the seaside
We can go out swimming in the high tide
Just wear your shorts and your long hair
Don't forget the lawn chairs

Everybody's going to the movies
Everybody's going and it's groovy
It's the one all about the big war
I've seen it before

I guess I'm taking my chances
Giving up the ring for a couple of wings
On a little white dove
And One Big Love

No sense defending your honor
Just go on and kiss her if you wanna...

(sorry I forget the rest.)

"In God's Hands"

I looked at your face I saw that all the love had died
I saw that we had forgotten to take the time
I, I saw that you couldn't care less about what you do
Couldn't care less about the lies
You couldn't find the time to cry

We forgot about love
We forgot about faith
We forgot about trust
We forgot about us

Now our love's floating out the window
Our love's floating out the back door
Our love's floating up in the sky in heaven
Where it began back in God's hands

You said that you had said all that you had to say
You said baby it's the end of the day
And we gave a lot but it wasn't enough
We got so tired that we just gave up

We didn't respect it
We went and neglected it
We didn't deserve it
But I never expected this

Our love floated out the window
Our love floated out the back door
Our love floated up in the sky to heaven
It's part of a plan
It's back in God's hands
Back in God's hands

It didn't last
It's a thing of the past
Oh we didn't understand
Just what we had
Oh I want it back
Just what we had
Oh I want it back
Oh just what we had

I have been singing this song in the back of my head for years. Little did I know how true it was.
My wife of 25 years dropped the "I don't love you any more" bomb 2 weeks ago. Today we moved her into her own apartment while she works on her MLC.

I Can't Make You Love Me
Bonnie Raitt

Turn down the lights, turn down the bed
Turn down these voices inside my head
Lay down with me, tell me no lies
Just hold me close, don't patronize - don't patronize me

CHORUS: Cause I can't make you love me if you don't
You can't make your heart feel something it won't
Here in the dark, in these final hours
I will lay down my heart and
I'll feel the power
But you won't, no you won't
'Cause I can't make you love me, if you don't

I'll close my eyes, then I won't see
The love you don't feel when you're holding me

Morning will come and I'll do what's right
Just give me till then to give up this fight
And I will give up this fight

CHORUS: Cause I can't make you love me if you don't
You can't make your heart feel something it won't
Here in the dark, in these final hours
I will lay down my heart and I'll feel the power
But you won't, no you won't
'Cause I can't make you love me, if you don't

Have been listening to this song for months because I want a divorce sooooo bad and truly "It's too late!!"

There's something wrong here, there can be no denying
One of us is changing, or maybe we've stopped trying

And it's too late, baby, now it's too late
Though we really did try to make it
Something inside has died and I can't hide
And I just can't fake it

It used to be so easy living here with you
You were light and breezy and I knew just what to do
Now you look so unhappy, and I feel like a fool

And it's too late, baby, now it's too late
Though we really did try to make it
Something inside has died and I can't hide
And I just can't fake it

There'll be good times again for me and you
But we just can't stay together, don't you feel it too
Still I'm glad for what we had, and how I once loved you

But it's too late, baby, it's too late
Though we really did try to make it
Something inside has died and I can't hide

(Steve Forbert - Streets of this town...)
I'll lock myself away and not face one more day
On the streets of this town
And all I've got to lose, is a feelin' called the blues
And a little ol' frown;

I signed your dotted line and did my best at tryin',
Givin' all I could give
And all I've gotten back is this feelin' that I lack
What I'm needing to live

And you say you don't see it when a grown man starts to cry,
You turn your face away and you walk on by.
I found myself a girl who brightened up my world
From december to may
And then ran off with Jim, but I'll defer to him
And his purple beret
'Cause he knows how to wheel and deal and not to feel
When he's knockin' you down
And I know he'll succeed ' cause thats just what you need
On the streets of this town

And you say you don't see it when a grown man starts to cry,
You turn your face away and you walk on by.

I'll lock myself away and not face one more day
On the streets of this town
And all I've got to lose, is a feelin' called the blues
That's been going around;
I fit your crazy norm and wore your uniform
Where you told me to go
And got back in return this here feelin' that I've learned
What the Indians know

And you say you don't see it when a grown man starts to cry,
You turn your face away and you walk on by.

My favorite song was written by Leigh and Richards. Frank Sinatra recorded it in 1952...

"Fairy Tales can come true, it can happen to you.
If you're Young at Heart."

Being a transplant recipient it obviously speaks to me.

But few songs are as well composed as Hoagy Carmichaels "Stardust" though it can be argued that he may have borrowed it from someone else, and the lyrics were written long after the melody. If you're not familiar with it, Steve Tyrell does a fine contemporary version.

This song is by Lenny Kravits and somedays I feel this way
I'll Be waiting
He broke your heart
He took your soul
You're hurt inside
'Cause there's a hole
You need some time
to be alone
then you will find
what you've always known

I'm the one who really love ya, baby
I've been knockin' at your door

and as long as I'm livin'
I'll be waitin'
as long as I'm breathin'
I'll be there
whenever you call me
I'll be waitin'
whenever you need me
I'll be there
I've seen ya cry
into the night
I feel your pain
can I make it right?
I realize
there's no end in sight
yet still I wait
for you to see the light
I'm the one who really loves ya, baby
I can't take it anymore
and as long as I'm livin'
I'll be waitin'
as long as I'm breathin'
I'll be there
whenever you call me
I'll be waitin'
whenever you need me
I'll be there
You are the only one I've ever known
that makes me feel this way, couldn't on my own
I wanna be with you until we're old
you've got the love you need right in front of you, please come home
as long as I'm livin'
I'll be waitin'
as long as I'm breathin'
I'll be there
whenever you call me
I'll be waitin'
whenever you need me
I'll be there
as long as I'm livin'
I'll be waitin'
as long as I'm breathin'
I'll be there
whenever you call me
I'll be waitin'
whenever you need me
I'll be there

Other days I feel like Chris Daughtry song Overyou
Now that it's all said and done,
I can't believe you were the one
To build me up and tear me down,
Like an old abandoned house.
What you said when you left
Just left me cold and out of breath.
I fell too far, was in way too deep.
Guess I let you get the best of me.

Well, I never saw it coming.
And I should've started running
A long, long time ago.
And I never thought I'd doubt you,
I'm better off without you
More than you, more than you know.
I'm slowly getting closure.
I guess it's really over.
I'm finally getting better.
And now I'm picking up the pieces.
From spending all of these years
Putting my heart back together.
'Cause the day I thought I'd never get through,
I got over you.

You took a hammer to these walls,
Dragged the memories down the hall,
Packed your bags and walked away.
There was nothing I could say.
And when you slammed the front door shut,
A lot of others opened up,
So did my eyes so I could see
That you never were the best for me.

Well, I never saw it coming.
And I should've started running
A long, long time ago.
And I never thought I'd doubt you,
I'm better off without you
More than you, more than you know.
I'm slowly getting closure.
I guess it's really over.
I'm finally getting better.
And now I'm picking up the pieces.
From spending all of these years
Putting my heart back together.
'Cause the day I thought I'd never get through,
I got over you.

Well, I never saw it coming.
And I should've started running
A long, long time ago.
And I never thought I'd doubt you,
I'm better off without you
More than you, more than you know.

Well, I never saw it coming.
And I should've started running
A long, long time ago.
And I never thought I'd doubt you,
I'm better off without you
More than you, more than you know.
I'm slowly getting closure.
I guess it's really over.
I'm finally getting better.
And now I'm picking up the pieces.
From spending all of these years
Putting my heart back together.
Well I'm putting my heart back together,
'Cause I got over you.
Well I got over you.
I got over you.
'Cause the day I thought I'd never get through,
I got over you.

I get really confused somedays

Father forgive us
for what we must do
you forgive us
we'll forgive you
we'll forgive each other
til we both turn blue
then we'll whistle
and go fishin'
in heaven.

How about "MY GIVE A DAMM IS BROKEN" Debi

I too hear "It's to late...." in surround sound
24/7 Good Choice!

FEELING GOOD (love Michael Buble' version)

Birds flyin' high you know how I feel
Sun in the sky you know how I feel
Breeze driftin' on by you know how I feel
Its a new dawn, its a new day, its a new life for me
yeah, its a new dawn its a new day its a new life for me ooooooooh
AND I'M FEELING GOOD

Fish in the sea, you know how I feel
River runnin' free you know how I feel
Blossom on the tree you know how I feel
Its a new dawn, its a new day, its a new life for me
And I'm feelin good

Dragonfly out in the sun you know what i mean dont you know
Butterflies all havin' fun you know what I mean
Sleepin' peace when day is done that's what I mean
And this old world is a new world and a bold world for me

Stars when you shine you know how I feel
Scent of the crime you know how I feel
Your freedom is mine, and I know how I feel
Its a new dawn, its a new day, its a new life for me
(Free styling)
OH I'M FEELING GOOOOOOOOOOOOOD

Ever heard the song "Torn Between 2 Lovers:.

You know how it goes:
Torn between 2 lovers, feeling like a fool
Lovin' both of you is breakin' all the rules.

Check it out sometime, you'll get what I mean.

MLC?? I think, because I'm thinking more about an old flame all the time, see him now and then and that song just plays over and over in my head. Do I want a divorce, no...not really..but wish I'd done things differently. Have quit my job, have new one - but want to work, and dont' want to work, want things, then don't want them....feel like a kid having the terrible twos!!! HELP!!