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Are you at war with your midlife crisis?
Do you feel like you are in a battle for your life?
A lot of us do. We feel that unease and restlessness and want to make it go away. The harder we try to ignore it, distract it or drug it, the more miserable we feel.
I just wrote about how it can become like an arms race. You can read the article by clicking here: The Arms Race.
What if there is another way? Instead of seeing your midlife crisis as an enemy, what if you saw it as a guide? Instead of trying to beat down the restlessness and unease, you actually listened to what it had to tell you?
What if this feeling in your gut that something is out of whack is really a wonderful navigation system that tells you when you are on course and when you have strayed? Using it as a homing beacon can transform your experience.
How do you do this? Ask yourself key questions that get down to that deep place in you that knows what you value, your gifts and your calling.
Become like the old TV detective, Colombo, and ask the kinds of questions he did that always broke the case. You need to ask yourself questions like:
What seems to be missing from my life?
What wakes me at 3am?
What do I always seem to be complaining about?
What did I used to dream about?
Ask yourself these questions and then listen very carefully. Hint: The answers worth listening come from a very quiet place deep inside. So get quiet, listen and write down what you learn.
Befriend your unease – it has a lot to tell you.
You can learn more about how to navigate your midlife crisis at www.thedisquiet.com.
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Is my husband still in love with me or is he going through a MLC
I am 35 and my husband will be turning 49 in may.Let me explain what is going on,we have 23 rental houses and just purchased a 10 plex,everything is in a L.L.C. I thought everything was going well.We have been together for 7 years,he also adopted my 2 kids,he has been with me since our daughter was a newborn.Great guy,but all of the sudden he said my name needs to come of bussiness checking acct.liability issuses.I took my name of,then learned he lied there was no liability so when i confronted him he agreed to put me back on,same day he stayed out until 11p.m.When i asked where he was he informed me that it was not my business,i looked at his cell all #s were cleared when i asked why i was told none of my f__ing business,so i stated i could look on line tomorrow, i also said if its not my business then why the hell are we married maybe we should get a divorce(out of anger)next day he shut off my cell & took my name off acct.so instead of going to work on time he was late.He says all of this is my fault he is getting worse rather than better,he no longer holds me i have to demand him just to hold my hand.He also went to a lawyer for divorce,but put everything on hold so we can try,but i feel i'm the only one trying he would rather be with his friends then me.I asked if we could go for dinner on fri. i found sitter for kids,but he informed me he was going to bar with a freind instead.What is going on?I need advice!
He is having a MLC. Get
He is having a MLC. Get yourself to a lawyer and protect your financial interest in any and all marital assets. NOW!!!
Still feels like all-out war to me...
I can see how it can be a guide, but I feel as if I've been ambushed by superior forces. I'm not trying to drug it, ignore it, or distract it. I want to end it in the best way I can.
"When you're going through Hell, for God's sake, keep going!" (Winston Churchill)
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