Are you at war with your midlife crisis?

Do you feel like you are in a battle for your life?

A lot of us do. We feel that unease and restlessness and want to make it go away. The harder we try to ignore it, distract it or drug it, the more miserable we feel.

I just wrote about how it can become like an arms race. You can read the article by clicking here: The Arms Race.

What if there is another way? Instead of seeing your midlife crisis as an enemy, what if you saw it as a guide? Instead of trying to beat down the restlessness and unease, you actually listened to what it had to tell you?

What if this feeling in your gut that something is out of whack is really a wonderful navigation system that tells you when you are on course and when you have strayed? Using it as a homing beacon can transform your experience.

How do you do this? Ask yourself key questions that get down to that deep place in you that knows what you value, your gifts and your calling.

Become like the old TV detective, Colombo, and ask the kinds of questions he did that always broke the case. You need to ask yourself questions like:

What seems to be missing from my life?
What wakes me at 3am?
What do I always seem to be complaining about?
What did I used to dream about?

Ask yourself these questions and then listen very carefully. Hint: The answers worth listening come from a very quiet place deep inside. So get quiet, listen and write down what you learn.

Befriend your unease – it has a lot to tell you.

You can learn more about how to navigate your midlife crisis at www.thedisquiet.com.