Men in Midlife

...and many walk smack right into one of the walls while they are not watching where they are going!

Wesley Hein
Wesley [at] lifetwo [dot] com

Hey Wesley,

You're not kidding, and it's easy to do that. When I reached age 40 a few years ago, I decided to embrace midlife with open arms. I see it as a new beginning, a new adventure. However, I was also thinking it would be a time when I would have to be especially attentive and aware so that I would not be caught up in delusions about who I was.

On February 1, 2004, I had a powerful "waking up experience" when I remembered who I was. (Remind me to write about that here sometime.) That experience still continues to help me stay aware of what is going on.

Okay Steve, this is your reminder to write about your "waking up experience". The fact that you know the exact date speaks volumes. Visitors to LifeTwo will learn far more from reading your stories than what experts have to say so please do share away.

Wesley Hein
Wesley [at] lifetwo [dot] com

well on the subject of male mid life crisis, i considered the friendship i had with the man i loved and shared 2 weeks short of 13 years with. He left and came back left again. Then we continued to sleep with each other although he became attracted to other women. He had pretty much all the symtom. but i am remaining faithful to him because i am in love with him. I see him twice a week at the gym and it bothers him when another man look in my direction, but will not admit it to me. I also notice that he obviously is have an issue with the sex organs and refuse to admit to it. I don't complain because the sex is still pretty good, however it seems as if i am doing all the work to please him. He calls be babe and touches me from time to time as if he is having regrets. But i have also decided to aloow him to explore what's out there and is willing to wait but just to use a condom and i have asked him to be careful and to also use a condom i hope he uses good judgement. He is currently dating a woman the seems pretty desperate to please him and that is what i am afraid of because he might fall for he. Because she is in a position with no kids and has a stable career which is appealing to him and the are of the same racial identity. and to me that is a threat they have that in common.