I have been happily married for 12yrs we had some ups and downs nothing big until about 2 months ago I went to my husbands work to pick up our son and he told me in front of his workers that he was done with me he can't stand and there is nothing there between us anymore he wants his freedom back about a month before that he started staying out late on the weekends and he would always call me to tell me he was drinking with his friends and the time he would be home as soon as he got in the door and came to bed he would wake me up to tell me he was home sometimes I thought he was cheating on me but I figured why start a problem that wasn't true until the day I found out he couldn't stand me anymore. It felt like a knive was put in my heart and never taken out I lost my best friend my everything.He is only thirty and friends tell me he is having a mid life crisis. Then he moved out and got his own place when are youngest son went to his place to spend the night he came home the next day very puzzled and confused my soon told me who the girl was which I know her because she works for my husband she is only 20yrs. old and still in college which will be starting soon when I found out I flipped out and called him the horrible things he said to me on the phone I just cried he told me he never loved me or cared about me so I asked him if he loved her he said no and then I said do you care about here he told me yes he cares about her.But then another time when me and him was on the phone for a half an hour talking he told me he don't care about her. I also told him this wasn't him I don't know who he is anymore and he actually agreed with me and told me this wasn't him. All I do is argue with him because I want answers and he never has them I ask him what did I do that was so wrong he tells me I took his life away from him I still love my husband with all my heart and still will do anything for him all I keep praying for is him back but I don't ever know if he is coming back to us friends tell me it is just a fling that he will always love you just let him get over what ever he is going thru he is getting older and he's scared please someone help me I am going crazy over this what should I do please some advice.