how often does this turn out okay? I am sure everyone has there own timeline. I am giving him his space and time. We are starting counselling. We dont fight. Everyone tells us we have wonderful children, we agree on raising them. We are both loved at our jobs, church, our kids schools. We have great families, not screwed up or anything. There was no warning, it came out of the blue. he recently got a promotion at work and went from working at home to be at the office. I think that had made a huge impact on him. he does not think we can rekindle our love, and I just dont get that. Why not try?