Man of Action,

So sorry to hear of this rift between you and your wife. From what you wrote it seems like you'd like to work things out...maybe even reinvent your marriage.

Could I offer a thought to you. I'm a mediator who often helps two people see their situations differently. Over the years I've been amazed by how a small shift in perception can really open of discussion and solutions.

f she's reacting negatively to the words midlife crisis, why not let them go and concentrate on your primary desire: to help her and revitalize your marriage. You might find that once those words, with all their negative connotations, are removed your wife will be open to exploring her feelings with counseling.

Here's another question: why is it important to you that your wife acknowledge what you're calling a midlife crisis? Knowing that might assist you in determining some of your interests. We're human and we don't always have positive interests in mind; that's ok, but it's important to know that at the start.

Here's hoping your family finds its way.