This 'crisis' in my life, which was triggered by an action by my wife, has only made me a better and stronger person. I think that pretty much says it there. We men, who have received the news of our spouses sudden departure, are too, going through our own crisis.
In Henry and Tom Blackaby's book, "The Man God Uses", they speak of crisis. "Crisis is often mistaken to mean a "tragedy" or "threat." A truer understanding is that a crisis means "a turning point." For a believer, a crisis of belief is a point at which that person either trusts or obeys God or places his own wisdom and interests above God's."
He goes on to say, "Perhaps you are dealing with a crisis in your life now, or maybe one has just passed. It may be well that God is using you as His instrument to bring hope, peace, or truth into the situation. Be careful not to be so focused on the crisis that you are unable to see God in the midst of it."

-Jim