Not sure how comfortable I am writing this, even anonymously. But when my now-ex decided to stray I tried everything to deal with the pain--from excessive drinking to straying myself. Not surprisingly nothing worked. A friend suggested that I go to church to meet a new group of people. What I noticed was how positive people were and it reawakened a feeling in me that had been long surpressed by my always-negative spouse. I liked being positive and with religion I was. I brought God back into my life and, at least for me, was so very much better for it. I tread carefully because it is an individual choice and people need to want it in their heart. But for me it was the best thing that could have happened and I am so thankful that my friend pointed me to church instead of yet another bar.