I haven't checked this site for about a week and just now saw the responses to your original email.  It really does feel good to temporarily "ignore" the husband and jetout there and do something independent of him.  Just as long it is something that I sincerely want to do and find meaning in.  I read that book "Women are from Venus, Men are from Mars". In one chapter, he tallks about how men sometimes go into their "caves" and that we should just ignore them during those periods.  I think that might work in reverse.  When I become involved in things that exclude my husband, he suddenly becomes more curious about what is going on with me.  It is not a game, really because I sincerely need a little space sometimes.  What do you all think?-Robin