hi there i have to been sufferring from the same problem with my husband we havent even been married a year it has been a rough year for both of us i had to have two surjerys on my right shoulder and he has been in and out of jobs since december 2006 things seemed to be better around the time of our wedding then our wedding day was an absolute disaster due to the people that we had stand up with us we really found out who our friends were right after the wedding we bout a majorly run down house that he wanted to live in and we have been renovating and hes been gone for the last 8 months on a job in another town that made it so i rarely saw him i missd him so bad i just couldnt deal with it and all the other things in our lifes in february he found someone else and i began to rarely hear from him at all he came home begining of june and told me that he had been spending time with a chic online and it had gotten seriuos and that he had almost decided not to come home he is still talking to her all the time like four or five hrs a nite and he claims that she is a troubled women that needs help where i can understand that i no longer trust him like i used to i will always love him but he will have to earn my trust im in the same boat he seems to be going thru a midlife crisis and it sucks i know i really cant say that im much help but u know it helps to know that there is someone else going thru the same thing tk care and good luck :)