Hi Dona,

I suggest that you stop thinking that you're in midlife crisis. Instead, try to think of your life right now as a turning point for a more fulfilling life to come with the balance of your life. Take it as a wake call to live an even more abundant life from now on. Whatever your past might be, let it be past. If there are mistakes you made as we all made before, learn the lesson. If you think your past "half life" was a failure, don't think so, because it's a stepping stone for all of us to receive greater success later in our second half life.

Like Havelock Ellis said, "It is on our failures that we base a new and different and better success."

Havelock Ellis said: "It is on our failures that we base a new and different and better success."

Samuel Smiles also said: " It is a mistake to suppose that men succeed through success; they much oftener succeed through failures. Precept, study, advice, and example could never have taught them so well as failure has done."

I'm a 38 years old man. haha ... 2 more years to 40! I wonder where in life I will be when I reach 40! At 38, I feel time just slipped away so fast! At this stage, I'm not satisfied with what I've done for the past 38 years well minus years as a baby. I have blogged about my feeling in my blog here

http://lifecrisisguide.wordpress.com/2008/02/10/am-i-in-crisis-what-cris...

Over the past months particularly, I strongly felt a sense of crisis in my life, that got me thinking what was I doing in my past 38 years! what do I want from life? Is working, eating, sleeping all there is to life? Is there higher meaning in life? ... I was asking these questions.... Now I think I am in search of my life goals and try to implement them. I cannot live like before any more. Looking forward, I only have 10-20 active years to strive for real meanings in life. How long is 10-20 years? Not long. It's like you asking how long ago was 40 years? Not long ago. It passed by so fast! 10, 20, 30, 40 years will pass by so fast. So we have to cherish every minute we have to pursue what is there for us meaningfully. Time really flies.

I think now I'm getting more serious about the balance of life left for me to "play" with. This crisis feeling creates a wakeup call in me to live a purpose- and meaning-driven life! Instead of feeling we're hit by midlife crisis, let's embark on new journey of life. This gonna different from the first half!

All the best,
Amos Chan