The question: have I wasted 20 years of my life as a home maker? The answer is YES. Have you spoken to your kids lately? Do they have any respect for you? Does your husband? Unless you have had a job or have worked, I hate to break the news to you, BUT no one respects you.

You could have easily have held down a part time job while your kids were growing up. You could have gone to work while your kids were in school. No kid needs a mother, at home, for twenty years.

And where are you now? You are 20 years older and what have you done for yourself? Your friends have retirement money and probably their own lives. What happens, now that the kids are grown and out of the house, your husband and you realize that you really have nothing in common. People start getting divorced right around this time. What happens if your husband dumps you? Where will you be then?

My advice, now that the 20 years are over, is for you to devote the rest of your life on yourself. Don't be waiting for the second wind of grandparenting to hit you. Decline taking care of your kids' kids and concentrate on yourself for now. or can you not do that?

Time to finally start your career. Go to school or take an adult class or train for something. Go get a job. Life is very, very long and if that photo of yours is accurate, you still look young and you still have a long way to go till you die.

The 20 years are over. You can't get them back BUT you can finally start to live your own life right NOW!!!!!