Infidelity.....It does seem to be prevalent. I never focused to much on how many people around me were getting divorced or having affairs....then it was happening to me! The more people you talk to the more you see how common these to issues are. It stinks! I put all of my energy into my marriage and family and now I get to see it unravel. Unfortunately, I do think that the separations, that the military families go through, do put a strain on the marriage. And, I don't feel that there is enough support out there to help us adjust to the separation or the return. Maybe there should be mandatory counseling before or after the separation...I don't know...just a thought! I would imagine the military would benefit by supporting the families staying together...they are always preaching how imp. it is to get the mission done and get it done right. Mission comes first! Well, I know that my husband seems to be irrational at times so I wonder how he behaves at work and if any coworkers notice any difference. I would like to believe that "these relationships never last" (the affair) and that "the bloom wears off the rose". Every relationship takes work and there are always up and downs. He seems to think that the grass is greener but I guess he will have to find out the hard way! The OP has to have doubts that this person they are with is going to be faithful to them. In the back of their mind they have to think...I will always be just the OW/OM. I too believe that marriage is a sacred bond!!