This is very unreal. I can relate with being in a relationship where one partner is not being truthful. My husband and I are both active duty with 12(me) years and him(13) years. I understand what you're going through. I sometimes use my kids to nudge my husband, who's cheated and I know that it's not fair, but I also feel as though I didn't get a fair chance to work on my marriage. There are lots of people telling me different things and I know several spouses that have tried everything and unfornately I don't work for the CDC or anything like that but it seems that cheating has become a pandemic problem. I know of at least 9 out of 10 Army marriages have broken up since all of these deployments began. It's sad and we need help to save our lives.