I know your note was to Lil but I'll chime in with my 2 cents. You asked when to allow your relationship to continue when your wayward husband says that it is over with the other woman. My suggestion is that you take it slowly and don't let your desire to "get things back to the way they were" to rush your healing/trusting process. If he is sincere then he will work with you during this process. If not, well that speaks volumes. You know the adage about "actions speak louder than words," your husband needs to understand that moving forward will depend on what he does and not just him professing that it is over. You can decide if you think joint marriage counseling is for you. If you feel that it is and your husband doesn't want to or doesn't open up, well that's would be a sign that he still isn't where he needs to be for the healing you need.

Just my opinion, as with everything you read here you need to take these as suggestions but the final decisions should be found in your heart.

Wesley Hein
Wesley [at] lifetwo [dot] com
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