Hey again...

I can't really comment on distancing one's self emotionally first and physically last. In my case it was a package deal with my wife. When she left, everything about her left with her.

She is somewhat back emotionally, wanting and yearning to get us back physically, but after five months still doesn't feel "it" from a physical standpoint.

I think it's good that you are going to Counseling - hopefully he will join you as well. It's important to have the couples and indivdual counseling...it has been very effective for us in regard to strengthening our communication and goals towards a rebuild. We have also started going to Church which has also helped...It's simply the physical aspect that is keeping us in the dark.

Keep your Faith and if your husband is OK with reading comments on this site, I would encourage him to continue doing that...I have asked my wife but she hasn't been on yet - not sure if it's fear that she might actually find she is in fact going through MLC, or if she is simply in denial.

Good luck...:)