Hi again, it is confused and lonely.

Thanks so much for your messages and encouragement. I do believe or at least have to that he will get through this in time. But I do have one question? Is it normal to distance yourself emotionally first and physically last? We have not had relations in a month. He did try but not successful and I know that tormented him, first time ever. It saddens me that he is unable to connect but I feel he is hurting inside with this mlc and it has effected him physically. It has crushed me that we are not connecting physically but I think it is all part of it, I joke about it a bit must add humor to our misery. He was reading notes from this website last night and somewhat laughing that others feel the way he does. I keep reinforcing him that it is a transition. I am seeing a counsellor next week and I hope that he will soon come too. Any suggestions and comments are so welcome.

Your help has been terrific. I believe in trust and god that will carry us through this time. Not all men experience this uncertainty and mlc, but I feel we all have uncertainty in life.

confused, lonely and isolated.