I read your comment and couldn't help but respond to what you posted.

I will start by saying that I completely understand what you are feeling - I too am going through this but I am the Husband witnessing my wife try to "find herself"

My wife and I have had a wonderful marriage for the last eight years and have had what has been the "perfect" relationship for the last 13 years.

In late August she approcahed me and said that she was bored and needed to move out...I was crushed! She initially blamed me for trivial things (keeping the house TOO clean, not traveling on business with her, etc). In our position, it's easy to beat ourselves up and take the blame.

However, at this stage of the game, she has changed her thoughts and has said that she doesn't blame me for anything...she says that it's her, she doesn't understand why she is feeling the way she is feeling, but says that she desperately needs to find herself and her purpose.

Unfortunately,while they are "finding" their self, we are left confused, frustrated and scared about what the future might hold. We talk almost every night (she moved out in September to stay with a girlfriend), we still say I Love You at the end of every call / conversation and spend quite a bit of time together.

The big issue now is her gaining the want for intimacy back with me - she says that she just doesn't feel it. She wants to get it back, but she just doesn't feel it right now.

We have been going through counseling and have recently started going to Church together which has been positive in both respects.

All I can say is hang in there and know that he still seems to be holding on which isn't what I have been reading much of through this site...that's a positive thing.

Good luck -