"He believes he is in a mlc and he does not like it..."

As you can probably tell by reading other stories, this is huge and it is very positive. Your husband is aware something isn't right and he would like to get better. This is an enormous and necessary step to the healing process. There is every reason to believe he will come out of this. You are right to go to counseling with or without him so that you take care of yourself. Hopefully he will see the benefits you get and follow you thereby speeding up his recovery.

One other tip that comes from Life Coach Dave Schoof is that whenever he starts talking about what he's thinking try and avoid rushing in and fixing it. Just listen and encourage him to talk more and more and more. This will help you both learn what might be going on. If you haven't already done so spend some time in our midlife crisis section, there are more stories and articles to help you.

Good luck and keep posting. Your experiences will help those that follow.

Wesley Hein
Wesley [at] lifetwo [dot] com
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