I have written here a while back I am confused, lonely and isolated.
My husband is in the middle of mlc crisis at 39 and I am trying to wait it out with encouragement and not driving myself to the nut house. I am going to counseling next week and with hope my hubby will come soon too. He believes he is in a mlc and he does not like it, there is no ow and he is emotionally disconnected from me and now physically he is too. We sometimes use humor and I just keep encouraging, but I am scared and pray he too will transition and come through this. I think he is worried that he will not, after 17 years he said he was always satisfied with his life and me but now he just he is not excited to be here with me, although he says he is attracted to me, so confusing. Your note has inspired me and I would love to hear more. I am praying for you and all the woman here that we make it through this. Because it is hard I hate it. The book His Midlife Crisis by Jim Conway is great. I have read it and my hubby is reading some as well which I think is good. He is still in this and really is having a hard time trying to figure out why he feels this way as I am too, we have everything, great life, great kids he and I have worked so hard to attain our goals and we have them all, now he is having this. It is scary and lonely but I do believe he will come through but we are all forever changed by this, I just want to come through it with him. The trust is huge but I hope and pray he will have an epiphany and come through. I believe it has been about 8 months for us and we have had a few emotional days. Although I did not find out until 3 months ago he felt this way, it tore me apart, I lost it truly, I am more rationale now but still so hurt and scared. I try and give him space and really try as best I can not to bring up this all the time but man it is so hard. This is my life too. And the lives of three little girls.

Please keep writing and give me suggestions anytime.

thanks for all the help

confused, lonely, and isolated.