As others have stated before me, you're a kind, trusting man. You're living up to your marriage vows and you're wife is not. I'm in a similar situation, he has lied to me, swore on the Bible, when I did not believe him, he swore on him mother's picture and then for the next two years accused me of being Paranoid. Then two years later, he owned up. Needless, to say the trust is gone.

I catch him on the internet instant messaging women, always women. His response is that it is harmless and that he was in a chat room, but I'm sure chat rooms have men as well. I know I should have left him, the first time I caught him cheating on me, but I stayed with him, as he cried and begged me to stay. People only hesitate the first time they're going to commit adultery. 12 years later, I'm kicking myself for my stupidty.

As suggested hire a private investigator and once you can prove that she is guilty, contact a lawyer and have her move out. Also, please prove that she is an unfit mother, so that you get full custody of your children.