You're not a fool, I'm going through something similar to your situation. I think that some people just mature on different levels than other people. Unfortunately my husband and your wife aren't where they need to be with family responsibilities and relationships. It's not about going to the movies or watching tv with your spouse, it's merely about taking care of your resposibilities. More than likely she's cheating but she wants to have her cake, you and eat it too, her affair. If you can't catch her, then hire you a PI. I actually caught mine and his chain of command tried to hide it and make me look like an unhappy wife. Army Strong