I agree that we might be able to talk about the topic of loneliness without trying to put a fix on it.

I go to my workout class and all the other women gravitate toward each other like elementary school kids. They have their preferred conversation partners, and they're all of a more similar age and background. I end up working out solo most of the time.

Sometimes I am down about it. I wish someone would come up to me and choose me to work out with. I'm afraid to go ask them, for fear they'll go, 'no thanks' and pair up with their usual buddies. I realize I've always been this way, ever since I actually was in elementary school!

Other times I use this solo time to really concentrate on the weights, crunches, lunges, situps. It's a better workout if I concentrate. I might be feeling a bit lonely but at least I'm working hard.

Still other times I don't feel lonely at all. I'm not feeling lonely then. I'm feeling 'solo.'

It seems to me like my mind establishes everything that happens to me.

Feeling lonely also reminds me of how happy I feel when I talk to my friends and my sisters and other people who I have an affinity for.

I feel lonely too often. I paint and write and make soap. My goal is to have coffee with friends once a week. This is about enough socializing for me.
I'm going to make a post about confronting oneself in midlife. Maybe you'll see it.