In my case, the title should be changed to "Lessons I'm LEARNING ..." because I'm still in the barrel going over Niagra Falls with her. I'm reminded of the cartoon version of Alladin starring Robin Williams where the genie says, " What doesn't kill you makes you stronger ... and you'd be surprised what you can live through." Stu's lessons are very helpful and can be applied to anyone in the middle of a MLC situation. I'm finding that it's 2 steps forward, 1 step back - but at that rate, I'm still making progress. Reading and writing posts have made a real difference because I can draw upon the experience of others undergoing the same trials that I am. I don't know what the end result will be but I'm learning to accept uncertainty and the fact that I can only control myself - not her. We're still talking and it's like we're best friends and that's what a relationship should be built on. I think we've forgotten that.

Buddy