"If you’ve been married two years, give it another two years. If you’ve been married for five years, give it another five years."

This is interesting. One of the things that we read in the MLC discussion forums is about couples who have been married or together for long periods (often over 10 years) when one of them suddenly says that they want out, have not been happy for years, etc. They often then say that they want to immediately move out (or want the other one to do so), don't want to go to counseling or possibly even talk about it. For these people not only do they not want to follow your rule of thumb, they don't want to give it any time at all.

This might be attributed to that during a midlife crisis they might not be thinking straightly or perhaps something else. But it is always sad to read about long-term marriages ending without any real effort to hold them together when one of the two just doesn't feel that it is worth it.

Wesley Hein
Wesley [at] lifetwo [dot] com
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