u have been dating for 2.5 years!!!!!!!!!! wow!!!!!!! try 34 years of "learning from past @#$$^^^!!!!! experience, as you say, like most of us do! do you think all the readers are idiots? healing???? i am 48, never married, lost my job, permanently disabled, going through menopause (with the fact i will never have a child of my own!) and looking at the rest of my life alone. yet, we are still suppossed to be somehow enlightened by the sage wisdom of 2.5 years of dating experience??!!!!!!!! give me a break! and, on top of all of this other bs i am supposed to "be learning and healing to let go of one relationship to make room for another"????? single folk in their 40's and up have been hearing this PSYCHOBABBLE since the 80's! try a more intelligent and original approach for the next post!