I'm also sorry Julie. Sam is right. There many here who have experienced this. My wife did about the same thing. Sam's steps are rigt on the money. I woul add this: Try not to internalize any negative feelings. This is your husband's stuff and this is how he chooses to work it out. Some people are badly wired. They're also immature and wrapped up in themselves so that running seems a better option than facing life on life's terms. But don't blame yourself or replay what you could have done. Keep you self respect intact.