While there are always two sides of every story, just hearing your side is enough. No matter what the issue is, and reading between the lines you have raised questions about his sexuality, the fact is that his actions are deplorable. But depressed people can do such things so it's possible that this is what you are seeing.

Since you said that he was loving and attentive before the baby was born, perhaps something happened there. According to this article, "10% of fathers get moderate or sever postpartum depression".

From the article:

More incapacitating than the "baby blues," postpartum depression is marked by severe sadness or emptiness, withdrawal from family and friends, a strong sense of failure, and even thoughts of suicide. These emotions can begin two or three weeks after birth and can last up to a year or longer if untreated.

While women often show signs of frank sadness when they are depressed, men may be more likely to be irritable, aggressive, and sometimes hostile when depressed, he says.

Pediatricians may also be up on the topic since they are on the watch for it--especially as it relates to the welfare of the child.

If it is a sexuality issue that is affecting your husband and not the birth of your child, then that would require a different tact.

Since your husband has already filed you need to get an attorney and protect yourself and your child--especially if he is moving assets around. You should might want to talk to a doctor, counselor, or psychologist about your own issues and support.

Hopefully you can get him to open up and tell you what is really going on or perhaps there is a trusted third-party who can talk to him for you to find out what is going on.

We're all very sorry to hear this and hope that something turns around.

Wesley Hein
Wesley [at] lifetwo [dot] com
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