I feel for you and what you are going through. We're not psychologists or therapists so it's not our place to offer specific judgments. But when someone becomes violent or exhibits such outwardly hostile actions as vandalizing a home, it doesn't take a PhD to know that you should be seeking professional guidance and removing yourself from harm's way. An attorney is a good place to know your rights (and responsibilities). Counseling or therapy for you might also be advisable given the events of the past year. You might be wondering why we are mentioning counseling for you when it is you husband exhibiting the aberrant behavior. As I'm sure you've heard, it's almost impossible to change other people; but you can change the way that you respond to them. Hopefully your husband does get the help he needs.

In short, take care of yourself and your family and point him in the right direction and hope that he follows it.

Wesley Hein
Wesley [at] lifetwo [dot] com
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