My husband (partner of 23 years) decided a year and a half ago that we needed to change our small business and opted to go for a home based business and invest a LOT of my money to do so. I thought long and hard about it but eventually agreed. Six months into it he walked out the door, moved in with a woman young enough to be his daughter. Since then he continues to work - just , mainly due to peer pressure, is stealing money off us and is heading quickly into bankruptcy. He doesn't see his children but lies to everyone about it and says i won't let him. I have struggled to maintain an even balance and keep my boys happy. (11 & 13) As he was not acting on anything at all i have been the one to contact lawyers and try and sort the whole mess out. As we have been self employed for years i find it hard to consider getting back into the workforce. Its hard to do anything when i am trying to half run a business and starve of going broke. Numerous talks with him have proved fruitless. I ask him to communicate and it goes in one ear and out the other. Our entire social life has been affected due to a lot of mutual friends.There are days when i could just jump in my car with my boys and leave but being the "responsible" one I can't do that. The pressure is enormous and I know i will keep going for the kids sake but can anyone explain that "total denial couldn;t care less attitude. I can see and end but its been a hard long road. I have dealt with my feeling about him but still have to deal with my children who have been rejected and the possiblilty of having owned a house and having a good future to being on the poverty line. Why is it so easy for some men just to walk away from it all ???????