I have a disability due to an accident a few years ago that causes a problem with my speech. I also have trouble eating and swallowing due to having part of my tongue removed. Sound lovely? I am single, never married and attractive. I used to enjoy oral sex with a man. Now it is painful and I feel I am not effective. I want to date and be intimate. I would like to speak clearly but that is not possible. I would like to eat normally but can't do that; most of all I would like to enjoy the intimacy of a deep mouth kiss and normal intimate activities. What can I do? This is all new to me. No doctor or therapist has a clue of what to say. I want to be the woman I was, not with my soul trapped in this horrible train wreck of a body I am left with. Do you all know how lucky you are to even be having this discourse about being an effective kisser? alternatives are not the same and neither is being alone forever. why was i allowed to live if the doctors who saved me could not help me how to cope with living with this? I am not even in the game. Please offer only helpful suggestions if you have any. No prayers, no pity or freak seekers. I want to try to be whole in some way again.