I am so sorry that things are going so badly for you and I can relate to the pain you are going through. It sounds like she is having a psychological breakdown, maybe she suffers from depression? In any case, I don't think she is well to react this way. I am choosing to wait and see what my husband does even though he is divorcing me. Do not think of divorce as the end but a transition period that can always lead to reconciliation later. Right now, it must be so hard for you not to see your kids much. Men in these situations are not given a fair treatment by the courts most of the time. Hang in there. Get help from a social worker or even a therapist to help you deal with the pain. Do not stay alone. Rely on your friends and family to support you.