My boyfriend (once fiance) got divorced after 5 years of marriage. His wife left him after many years of fighting and unhappiness. I am having a hard time understanding why he can be so "normal" one day and the next day blowing off plans to get wasted at a bar with his buddies. He is usually very sweet and responsable but then he will go out with friends and get Wasted. We were engaged and then I could tell he was feelign to much pressure so we called off the wedding took 2 months apart and now we are back together with no wedding plans. We he gets drunk he always gets rude to me and then apologies saying he just doesn't want to feel like anyone has any control over his life, he want's to do what he wants when he wants. Do you think this could be mid life crisis?