I did not expext to get a response from someone so soon, but I thank you for this ! I am really battling, how long has it been going on you ask, I am really not sure - but I think from the beginning of September and I found out on the 20th October ! He has taken a years lease on a place and I think she is in the process of divorcing her second husband ! He has basically thrown me out of our company we started together, so I am home alone and afraid of my future! It is my sons birthday today and we are going out to dinner with a few of his friends, his dad is coming along - I am not sure how to behave ! SHould I just be polite ? I am also sorry to hear that you have gone through this too, did it work out for you ?