I am devastated, my husband came back from a trip that he did with a female colleage, they travel quite a bit together, on his return from this particular trip, he was very distant and did not tell me he loved me anymore (he still hasn't said those words I long to hear). I then found out he was having an affair with her as I found an sms on his phone. He flatly denied this and said they were very very good friends, since then my feelings have been that of extreme sadness, anger (which I have not shown him) I have been crying, depressed and have lost about 10 kg in weight. My husband has said that he is feeling trapped and unhappy and wants to basically find himself. He has moved out of our home and our two children of 16 and 20 are devastated. I really do not know what to do. I am very lonely and still love him with all my heart. Is there anything I can do to try and get him back ?