I noticed that my husband seems very depressed and bummed all the time. He had no interest in anything. He kept talking about being unsure of where his life was going. Obessing with diet pills and weightloss. He wanted to sell the house, go to iraq, he was tired of being a father,husband ,tired of his job.He was communicated more than he had in 12 years.But was not getting any of my emotional needs met. I could feel that our marriage was over but i did not want it to be. I offered to move out because I did not want to be the cause of his regrets and misery.But he says I am the best thing that ever happend to him and he cant imagine life without me in it.. It was so sad to see him miserable and i wanted him to come back to me. I was wishing that he could comfort me until my husband came back. all the while my husband was nothing but loving and honest with me.but it all just seemed like a favor. he had been the perfect faithful husband for 12 years.I started preparing my self for the next step,a sportscar or an affair. Then it happen so quickly. he had an affair with a 22 year old. I was not shocked. he can not stop apologizing for hurting me but says she makes him feel young and happy. He knew her for only 3 weeks and he thinks he loves her. he says that he feels like he has gone crazy and he is not the same man he was just a few months ago.He says his brain is messed up and he knows that he will regret this. but right now he feels happy. He says that he loves me, I am very beautiful,sexy, and smart and it will kill him to see me with someone else. but the passion is gone and he is not attracted to me anymore after 12 years. He say he wants to fall in love with me again one day. But I know that can't happen.we are selling our house and getting seperate appartments. He can not believe that his is throwing away our whole family. But he never had a chance to be single. I feel like I have been cut into tiny pieces and i am dying. I am trying to prepare for my new life. I know I will recover eventually.But can anyone tell me why I feel sorry for him and I'm not at all angry. What's next for both of us.