well on the subject of male mid life crisis, i considered the friendship i had with the man i loved and shared 2 weeks short of 13 years with. He left and came back left again. Then we continued to sleep with each other although he became attracted to other women. He had pretty much all the symtom. but i am remaining faithful to him because i am in love with him. I see him twice a week at the gym and it bothers him when another man look in my direction, but will not admit it to me. I also notice that he obviously is have an issue with the sex organs and refuse to admit to it. I don't complain because the sex is still pretty good, however it seems as if i am doing all the work to please him. He calls be babe and touches me from time to time as if he is having regrets. But i have also decided to aloow him to explore what's out there and is willing to wait but just to use a condom and i have asked him to be careful and to also use a condom i hope he uses good judgement. He is currently dating a woman the seems pretty desperate to please him and that is what i am afraid of because he might fall for he. Because she is in a position with no kids and has a stable career which is appealing to him and the are of the same racial identity. and to me that is a threat they have that in common.