I, too, found myself in a very similar situation. In November of 2007, my husband of 15 years announced that he no longer loved me and that he needed space to figure things out. To hear my husband speak those words literally knocked the wind out of me! We have three children, our oldest son (my son from a previous marriage) had just left for the military--this was emotional in and of itself--and we have two still at home--14 and 11 years old. I have always enjoyed a close relationship with God--but now I was desparate! I cried out to God for answers and solutions, and HE gave them to me. He told me that HE should be my greatest desire--not my husband! If God is my greatest desire, everything else must line up after that. I had lived 17 years putting my husband first in everything--even above God! That's why my world seemed to be crumbling around me--because I did not build my life on a firm foundation! Our emotions and our desires change--God never changes! Right before the Christmas holidays, I committed that I would no longer put anyone nor anything above God and that my greatest desire will be to God alone. Doing this sparked something in my husband--he stopped staying out all night and began to spend more quality time with me and the children. I was no longer consumed with him and seeing after his needs. By all appearances, I had moved on(--it was only appearances). This was a real struggle and this could have caused me to return to old habits of putting my husband first--but, I die to old habits daily. There are some universal principles that we can never get away from. The best part is is that I am getting better everyday...When things seem to regress--I press deeper into the place where God met me in difficult circumstances. So whether my husband is going through a "mid-life crisis" or not, I am in a place of real shelter--where the wind and storms of relationships and relating to others cannot rock my foundation, because it is built on a firm foundation! I pray right now for each of you that you will cry out to God (there is only one God) and that you will find Him in your place of desolation! Be Blessed!